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Anonymous,
2 yr 281 days ago
I
personally believe that the decision should be the sole decision of the mother.
I have known enough women who got “stuck” with a whole bunch of children (some
with 7!) because the father either died, committed suicide, skipped town, or
became unemployed and was unable to pay a single cent. These woman were left to
bear the entire burden alone, having to earn money to support them and raise
these children single-handedly. Despite his good intentions, there simply is no
guarantee the man will be there to help out emotionally and financially for the
next 20 or 25 years.
In
my opinion, any woman who accidentally gets pregnant (yes, it CAN happen) and
is mature enough to realize that she cannot give a baby a halfway decent future
and wishes to terminate the pregnancy deserves praise. I have met enough people
with mental problems and diseases, people with hard drug and alcohol habits,
eating disorders, etc., that resulted from having been born into a family that
should never have had children. I also knew three people who grew up in homes
because no one wanted to adopt them (weren’t cute enough, were too old,
whatever the reason). Needless to say, this left mental scars.
I
live in Germany. Why has the birth rate has been dropping? In some parts of the
country the unemployment rate is around 20 %. Then there are those who receive
an unemployment check of approx. €350 (perhaps $380), plus rent and utilities.
There are others who earn under 4 € an hour. Then there is the question of
losing my job if the child is sick too often, because anyone over 40 is an old
geezer on the job market. Some job ads even say that they only accept people 35
and under. Then there is the problem of finding a decent partner in the first
place, as single women cannot adopt or go to a sperm bank (the latter being
only possible if a male partner signs various legal things). These are just
some of the reasons for the dropping birth rate, there are many, many more.
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Titithi
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Sat, 17 Feb 07 08:52 AM
It seems that I have the same opinion as you.( Yes, it can happen) is the main point I want to emphasize.Woman who accidentally gets pregnant should have decision herself. It's the result of inefficient contraception, a low failure rate of modern methods .Woman and man should decide to have a child or not to plan their family.After using a lot of modern methods of contraception,she accidentally gets pregnant,the decision should be the sole decision of the mother.In contrast, a lot of people don't think about the future, they have sexual intercourse without abstinence or contraception and at last they attribute the unfortunate result for their partners.Some men deny the responsibility , the woman should decide alone.Sometimes, the women were very young, they were teenagers and couldn't afford the fees to grow up a child.In addition, the baby will be very weak and may be it was a premature born...It can harm the mother's health. So, sex education and contraception is very important for them. Titithi
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Shea
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Sat, 17 Feb 07 03:32 PM
A lot of interesting points of view. Reproductive choice is a difficult conversation to have, probably in any language. There is a lot of interesting vocabulary associated with the subject, if you're learning English. The bottom line, in my opinion, is that women are not baby-making machines for the purposes of the government, corporations, families, or men. Regardless of the circumstances behind a pregnancy, it should be the personal, private choice of the potential mother whether or not to carry a pregnancy to term. Outside interference with this decision—in any way—is to remove the fundamental tenants of individual freedom and personal privacy. Sex is not only for the purpose of procreation. We too often make the assumption that modern marriage—where man and wife love each other and choose to be together—is, and has been, the norm throughout time. In many cultures—such as the United States of America before the 1960's—a woman might be the legal property of her parents until given in marriage (or some other arrangement) to a man, not necessarily of her choosing, even against her will. In such cases, sex might be used for the man's pleasure with little, or no thought to the possibility of pregnancy. Some women are sold into the sex trade, forced into prostitution, raped. There are any number of reasons why the "consequences" of sex might not be a result of choices made by a women. The option to not incubate a fertilized egg until it develops into a human life gives her the kind of dominion over her body that men assume, without hesitation, over their own. Most importantly, sex will be had for pleasure whether all parties agree or not, either as an expression of love and intimacy, or out of lust and personal satisfaction. Making a child the punitive consequence of this reality does no one any good, the least of these the child. Someone earlier said abortion was unnatural. How does he or she account for the fact that procedures for terminating pregnancy have existed throughout human history? That aside, women's bodies naturally abort pregnancies all the time (often without the woman's knowledge of the pregnancy). Is every one of these the death of a child? Should they be named and given funerals? On a personal note: I have had close friends make the decision to have an abortion. In each of the cases, the choice was not taken lightly. There was worry and concern over whether the choice was wrong—whether it was ending a human life. These questions can be debated by all, but the right to exercise complete control over one's body, to choose what happens to one's own body, should not be in question.
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Sat, 17 Feb 07 05:34 PM
Shea wrote: | | Most importantly, sex will be had for pleasure whether all parties agree or not. |
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I certainly hope so.
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Titithi
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Tue, 20 Feb 07 01:02 PM
I completely agree with your opinion because choosing among available methods plays an important role of contraception.The best method is the one that is medically appropriate and is used everytime by someone happy with the method. So, condom for men is a primary contraception method but it may decrease pleasure ( especially the woman pleasure). There is a funny story in a center health medical like this: A rural woman from a fareaway land was pregnant, although she had an abortion last month. she was very embarrassed to answered the midwife's question : Why don't you use condom?- My husband doesn't like it.... It's very odd...Pleasure is a gift for parenthood though we should respect it, even choosing a method of contraception. Some rural women think sex is only a responsibility and when they are in menopause, they cease this relation or their husbands can't have sex, they feel happy because they are not responsible to sexual intercourse.However abstinence is an important means of reducing unintended pregnancies.And abstinence only -until -marriage may lead to increase teenage pregnancy if they do not provide comprehension information about contraception.To sum up , I also think sex will be had for pleasure but we should have information about contraception to avoid leading some people to the blind alley.
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Anonymous,
2 yr 271 days ago
The desicion is mine. I'm the one carrying a fetus around for 40 weeks. I'm the one who's going to risk my life by supporting the life of another creature for it's gestation. I'm the one who is going to have to fight for child support and/or child care in the future. Or watch my own health deteriorate if I'm not physically sound enough to carry a pregnancy.
It is not the father's desicion in ANY way because it is NOT HIS BODY IT IS MINE!
If I had agreed to be a bone marrow donor the person recieving my marrow has to be in a germ free room and have all of their marrow killed off. As a person with rights to my body I can wait until the last minute, when the person I was going to give life too wil surely die without me and still say no.
And yes, while the blastocyst is dividing and growing into something that may someday get pushed out my vagina, by my muscles, with my body straining, as long as it's in my body it is part of me, not an individual.
And, does anyone remember life BEFORE abortion was legal? Women were killing themselves to have it done anyway. Doctors I have spoken to shivered in horror at the idea of going back. Women died. LIVING, BREATHING, ALREADY LIVING women were wounded, scarred and dead.
Here's something else I never understand from these arguments, why is life always considered GREAT! Things are born and die every day from flowers to cows to people. Why are we so enamoured with it? That every single chance at another human being should totally happen, no matter what it means to the humans already living?
A pregnant woman can make her own desicion about what she can and can't do. She may talk to the father, she may talk to her doctor or her family. But it's her right to choose what to do.
I have chosen both options with different pregnancy at different times and have no regrets, no guilt, no emotional damage and a great deal of thankfulness for both outcomes.
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David
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Mon, 26 Feb 07 09:46 AM
Neither you nor anyone has the right to terminate life. Look at the case of the 22week baby recently. They call it a miracle. It happens more often than one knows.Surely it is two consenting adults who decide to take risks a man is part of this equation. Are his feelings not valid. If a woman is so aware of the sanctity of her body why take risks?Everybody nowadays champions the right of the minority against those who hold power. In this case you hold the power and the child you have conceived has no voice. Yes it is your choice to weild this power responsibly.
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Anonymous,
2 yr 267 days ago
It's really an interesting subject to discuss and it's also a good condition to practice vocabulary. I think there is a typo mistake in the anno's reply of only woman's decision. It will be 40 days or 4 weeks. The author would be a man if he had this error. Let's imagine, it's very hard for a pregnant woman to sit before the computer in the gestational age up to 36 weeks at the first born or 37 weeks at the other birth. Pretenal care for parenting is always a problem for women especially for gestational age up to 36 weeks. And a lot of complications will happen for a woman to give birth. Midwife , doctors, emergency cars, blood are always ready to save the mother and the child in some special cases that no one can predict exactly what will be .For 40 days, some abortion medical could give a choice to women to decide to solve this dilemna.But it's not easy to abolish this fertilization because methotrexate and misoprostol are teratogenic . If you are really carrying a foetus of 40 days, you should go to the health center to avoid the risk of fetal anormalies or miscarriage instead of using abortion medical yourself for the feeling " more natural". Law regarding consent abortion of age under 18. For thousand of years, women have placed sponge with a variety of spermicides into the vagina. Today, contraception sponge is available in US pharmacies. So, the failure of the contraceptive sponge may lead to abortion. Emergency contraception includes any method initiated after intercourse to prevent pregnancy. Though, abortion may be a lot of methods of contraception. Some are permitted , others are banned. It depends on your religion, your conception , your sex education and the law of your country.
Anonymous,
2 yr 264 days ago
I agree your ideas
Abortion is criminal!
The father of a baby is responsible for abortion
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