Anonymous:
Hello, dear friends!
I'm studying linguistics at the moment in the University of Moscow, Russia. Would you be so kind to answer some of my questions, that will help me very much in my final work research!!!

I. You want to compliment your friend. What would you say in the situations as follows and what she/he could answer?

1) You friend is wearing a new suit.
You: __________________
She/He: __________________

2) Your friend has had a new hairdo.
You:________________________
She/He: ___________________

3) You are visiting your friend’s house / flat for the first time.
You: _________________
She/He: ___________

4) Your friend has played the piano for you.
You:___________________
She/He:_________________

5) Your friend has made an interesting public talk.
You:________________________
She/He: ______________________

6) Your friend has helped you to solve a complicated problem (has repaired your car/bike)
You:________________________
She/he: ____________________

2. Do you compliment other people
often __
seldom __
sometimes __
never __
Tick your answer.

3. Do you think complimenting is typical for English communication?

Yes __ No ___ It is difficult to say __ Tick your answer.

Thank you very much for your cooperation.
Hi,

I. You want to compliment your friend. What would you say in the situations as follows and what she/he could answer?

1) You friend is wearing a new suit.
You: _Nice suit!________________
She/He: ____Thank you.______________

2) Your friend has had a new hairdo.
You:______I like your hair.________________
She/He: ____Thanks._____________

3) You are visiting your friend’s house / flat for the first time.
You: ___You have a very nice place here.______________
She/He: ____Thank you._______

4) Your friend has played the piano for you.
You:______That was wonderful.___________
She/He:_____Thank you.__________

5) Your friend has made an interesting public talk.
You:_______That was very interesting, and you did it very well._______________
She/He: _________Thank you.___________

6) Your friend has helped you to solve a complicated problem (has repaired your car/bike)
You:______That was a big help. Thank you.__________________
She/he: _____You're welcome._______________

2. Do you compliment other people
often __
seldom __
sometimes _X_
never __
Tick your answer.

3. Do you think complimenting is typical for English communication? What do you mean by typical? Commonly done?

Yes ___ No _No, not compared to some of my students from other cultures where they seem to compliment excessively.


__ It is difficult to say ___ Tick your answer.

This is a wonderful survey. You are obviously a thoughtful, highly intelligent and perceptive person. I'm sure that you will achieve great success in your career. I foresee the possibility that you may receive a Nobel Prize in Linguistics, and possibly an Olympic gold medal in the Grammar competition.Emotion: smile

Best wishes, Clive
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I. You want to compliment your friend. What would you say in the situations as follows and what she/he could answer?

1) You friend is wearing a new suit.
You: __________________ Pretty spiffy! What's the occasion?
She/He: __________________ I have a job interview later today.

2) Your friend has had a new hairdo.
You:________________________ That length looks good on you.
She/He: ___________________ Thanks. It's been a long time since I've had it this short, but I kind of like it myself.

3) You are visiting your friend’s house / flat for the first time.
You: _________________ Wow! You did a great job decorating your house!
She/He: ___________ Thanks, but actually I just hired an interior designer!

4) Your friend has played the piano for you.
You:___________________ That was fantastic. You must have studied music for a long time.
She/He:_________________ Well, I've learned to play a few pieces pretty well, but mostly I just play for my own amazement!

5) Your friend has made an interesting public talk.
You:________________________ I didn't realize you knew so much about lasers! That was great!
She/He: ______________________ Thanks. At least all that research has finally paid off.

6) Your friend has helped you to solve a complicated problem (has repaired your car/bike)
You:________________________ I can't believe it! I wouldn't have known where to start, and you just acted like it was nothing!
She/he: ____________________ Well, I used to watch my dad fix things a lot when I was a kid. You pick things up by watching a lot -- and asking questions.

2. Do you compliment other people
often __
seldom __
sometimes __ X
never __
Tick your answer.

3. Do you think complimenting is typical for English communication?

Yes __ No __ It is difficult to say _X _ Tick your answer. It rather depends on the people involved.

CJ
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1) You friend is wearing a new suit.
You: ____You look nice____________(assuming that I like the suit of course, if I think he/she looks terrible in it I wouldn't say anything!)__
She/He: _______Oh, I got this at X shop._________

2) Your friend has had a new hairdo.
You:________________You've had your hair done! Looks good! ________
She/He: ________Do you like it? I thought I'd try something a bit different.___________

3) You are visiting your friend’s house / flat for the first time.
You: _________I really like your house/flat________
She/He: ____________Yes, it's not bad is it.

4) Your friend has played the piano for you.
You:____________That was brilliant. You're so clever._______
She/He:___________No, I'm not really...it's just practise______

5) Your friend has made an interesting public talk.
You:_________________That was so interesting, well done!_______
She/He: _____________Was I alright? Really?_________

6) Your friend has helped you to solve a complicated problem (has repaired your car/bike)
You:__________I'm so glad you were here. Thanks for helping.______________
She/he: _______That's ok. No problem._____________

2. Do you compliment other people
often __
seldom __
sometimes __ sometimes
never __
Tick your answer.

3. Do you think complimenting is typical for English communication?

Yes __ No ___ It is difficult to say __ Tick your answer. It is difficult to say. We are a bit funny about compliments in England - we give them but tend to be a bit embarrassed about receiving them. We certainly don't like 'gushing' praise. If someone compliments us it feels rather 'big-headed' to simply accept the compliment, we'll often contradict what the person has said (deny that we are good at something/clever/pretty etc) or just make a neutral comment even though we are pleased really. We find it hard to make a 'yes, thanks, I agree' type of response to a compliment - and the complimenter might find us a little arrogant if we did.
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I. You want to compliment your friend. What would you say in the situations as follows and what she/he could answer?

1) You friend is wearing a new suit.
You: _I love your suit - is it new?___
She/He: __What this old thing? I've had it for ages, but I don't wear it much.____

2) Your friend has had a new hairdo.
You:__You've had your hair done. It looks great.___
She/He: __Thanks - it needed doing__

3) You are visiting your friend’s house / flat for the first time.
You: __What a beautiful house! _
She/He: _Thanks - you wouldn't have said that if you'd seen it when we first moved in!


4) Your friend has played the piano for you.
You:___That was fantastic - you're so talented!
She/He:__Hardly! But thanks _

5) Your friend has made an interesting public talk.
You:__Well done - you did really well.___
She/He: __Did it go okay? What did you think?

6) Your friend has helped you to solve a complicated problem (has repaired your car/bike)
You:___Thank you so much - I really appreciate it. You're a star! __
She/he: __No problem, it was nothing __

2. Do you compliment other people
often __
seldom __
sometimes __
never __
Tick your answer.

3. Do you think complimenting is typical for English communication?

Yes __ No __ It is difficult to say ___ Tick your answer. Depends on the person, I think. I have the impression that women give more compliments than men. In any case, in the UK we tend to deflate any compliments we get - though secretly we're pleased!


Edit: Just seen nona's post above - she has said what I wanted to much more clearly! Sorry for the repetition.
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lol Emotion: big smile I have to say this is something English people are a bit weird about!
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Nona, Rose,

Did you think my imagined American responses were very much different?

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Anonymous:
im an irishman living in england-for a very long time-the english are extremely poor at offering compliments -they feel uncomfortable with -they may well comment that you are wearing a new siuiot --then say NOTHING else about it-this is very copmmon-Des Walsh!
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