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Waïti  +  197056 Wed, 15 Feb 06 01:30 PM
Surely the standards in what's considered appropriate attire for a woman have evolved over time. I can understand why a couple of thousands years ago it was deemed appropriate for a women to cover her head with a scarf or veil.
Denying that dressing code standards have evolved and that they have to accompany the evolution of human societies is simply preposterous. Not accepting the simple fact that a women being urged to cover her body and hair contains the implied notion that somehow she is reduced to a sexual object is ridiculous as well.
It assumes a woman without a veil is obscenity exposed to men's sight. Surely there is no clear definition of what's obscene and what's not. Surely it is difficult to qualify or quantify obscenity and all the US supreme court could say about it is "you know it when you see it". What the supreme court was wise enough to admit here is the simple evidence that it is mostly a matter of when and where it takes place, and that standards in what's socially acceptable and what's inappropriate would depend on the society and community we're talking about. There may be societies in the middle-east that still feel a woman without a veil isn't something socially acceptable. It's not been that long since women in most mediterranean countries have come to consider dropping the scarf. In Spain and Italy, you would still see women in their 60s wearing a scarf on their head.
For them to cover their hair, there is no other justification than tradition, and coming back to my initial point, tradition is bound to evolve over time including dressing code standards.
Trying to find another supposedly higher justification to it in the ancient scriptures, and trying to impose this justification as still valid in today's world... well this doesn't make sense at all to me.
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Janissary  +  197166 Wed, 15 Feb 06 06:44 PM

but i think those who want to cover their heads dont want to do this because of preventing their hairs from to sight of men or not wanting to be a sexual object for a man. but they want to use it due to it is written in holy books. so there cannot be any change by modernizations of societies or evolutions by ages.

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Lazarus  +  197252 Wed, 15 Feb 06 11:50 PM
 Janissary wrote:
i meant  the events which have been done so far and have been said because of freedom have been done so such as the events in danish newspaper and european newspapers.


I didn't want you to think that I just ignored your last response, Janissary.  I still don't understand what you mean, but that's ok...don't worry about it.

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Waïti  +  197458 Thu, 16 Feb 06 11:55 AM
Janissary my friend,
Then in your reading and understanding of holy scriptures, it seems to me you attach a much greater importance to the letter of them, and very little to the spirit of them. Maybe it is worth trying to understand what the principles behind the commandment are. When the commandment says that women should be veiled, it says it has to be so as a sign of modesty. I don't know exactly what it means but I would think it's simply a way of saying that women (and men as well by the way) should not behave in a way that might seem disrespectful, offensive, indecent or obscene to others. I don't agree with the notion that the standards in what's morally acceptable and what's not are the same today as they were 1500 years ago, or that they should be the same. Societies have evolved over time. You have to ask yourself what holy books (be they the Bible or Koran) would recommend considering today's environment. Surely the Internet is not mentioned in Koran. So if you're consistent in your reasoning, women should refrain from using it, for fear it might go contrary to the scriptures, since it is not explicitely mentioned in holy books as an acceptable practice for women to interact with men over the Internet. Perhaps it's even totally inappropriate and definitely not a sign of 'modesty' from their part to chat with men on englishforum.com...
Waïti.
Janissary  +  197580 Thu, 16 Feb 06 05:39 PM

 Waïti wrote:
Janissary my friend,
Surely the Internet is not mentioned in Koran. So if you're consistent in your reasoning, women should refrain from using it, for fear it might go contrary to the scriptures, since it is not explicitely mentioned in holy books as an acceptable practice for women to interact with men over the Internet. Perhaps it's even totally inappropriate and definitely not a sign of 'modesty' from their part to chat with men on englishforum.com...
Waïti.

on this subject, i want to make clear on that of course cant everything be written on holy books but holy books can be interpreted appropriate to today's world and they give us the clues of how a person should live now. and as we know, the meanings of holy books change by ages so it can be interpreted appropriate to day.

and regardless to what religion i am a follower of , i think one should do what is written in books to which they are follower of. so isaid the girls who want to be covered , want to do it so. not due to not want to be a sexual object of men.

and if a religion says man cannot speak with women and if i were a member of that i would not speak. you may think i am narrow minded or conservative but if you believe that you should do so,as well.

thanks to God,my religion doesnt say so. on the contrary it urges people to pay attention to others and summon us to be benevolent to everyone not only people who are in our religion but everyone.

as Mevlana said " Come,regardless to whoever you are , whatever you have done so far and if you are even a sinner , nevertheless , come"

i know i ahve a little drifted the topic but i dont want to remove anything i just wrote whatever come to my mind.thats all

regards

LanguageLover  +  197845 Fri, 17 Feb 06 09:52 AM

Dear Anon from Islamicity,

I don't know where you are from and where you live, so I don't know about your country's sexual harrasments, rapes, ... rate. But I know something about my own country that happens to be a stict Islamic one, especially when it comes to women's clothing. I don't know the exact rate of rapes happening in Iran, because most of the cases are kept hidden from the eyes of authorities or other people. The sexual harassment and rape exists in the society despite the coverings. It is not safe for a woman to walk home anywhere in the city, though men are supposed to guard their looks. Only people who work in hospitals are witness to how many cases of rapes that resulted in pregnancy ask for illegal abortions! And not every rape results in pregnancy!

There are lots of factors that have to be considered when studying theses cases, lack of  proper education and poverty are among the important factors, no matter if a society is a Muslim or Christian or Jew or whatever. And something else that is happening in Iran is actually the strict laws! Because males and females are too restricted, there is a tendency to discover why the restrictions are for. Boys and girls want to know what a relationship is!

Do not gorget, everything in moderate is good. Both strict restrictions and excessive freedom can cause serious problems!

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Passionate_freak  +  197850 Fri, 17 Feb 06 10:23 AM

 Lazarus wrote:
 Janissary wrote:
again the same problem emerges, many things in Western Societies are done behind the matter of freedom. isnt this a freedom? veiling? as long as it doesnt bother anyone. but it does.due to it bothers some people, it is not allowed.


If a group of men are not commanding she wear the veil, then yes, it is a free choice.  If there are potentially lethal consequences for the woman who drops the veil, then, no, she isn't making a free choice.


Lazarus

Well, though freedom concerns public attentions, choice of these kinds of things are too personal. What you guys call people doing protests that they should be allowed to walk naked in the public or else and wearing the transparrent cloths revealing all those secret parts ??? Then the rape is likely to happen.

If people are allowed to walk in the two pieces then why not if anyone likes it??? But I'm not supporting it though. It's personal and if it disturbs anyone why the hell ??? It's the personal thing as the Panty & Bra kind of thing.

Cheers

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Lazarus  +  198111 Fri, 17 Feb 06 09:52 PM
 Passionate_freak wrote:

Well, though freedom concerns public attentions, choice of these kinds of things are too personal. What you guys call people doing protests that they should be allowed to walk naked in the public or else and wearing the transparrent cloths revealing all those secret parts ??? Then the rape is likely to happen.

If people are allowed to walk in the two pieces then why not if anyone likes it??? But I'm not supporting it though. It's personal and if it disturbs anyone why the hell ??? It's the personal thing as the Panty & Bra kind of thing.

Cheers




pf--
I'm not sure how you're responding to what I wrote, so I'm not sure what to write back.  Sorry.

Lazarus
Levia  +  301461 Thu, 07 Dec 06 08:03 AM
I agree that no matter what purpose of wearing the veil, once you believe in a certain kind of religion and the commandment indicates that you shoud do like that, you must obey. Following this rule, I don't think the women who are wearing or are going to wear it is miserable. Maybe, if we command them of unveilling, which will do them harm. Whatever, do as you like, do as you chooe.
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