"Living without family is the most horrible existence there is"

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Hello,
http://www.creators.com/lifestylefeatures/annies-mailbox/annie-s-mailbox-r-2009-03-05.html

(Annie's Mailbox® by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar)
What follows is one part of a letter on that page.
I am a very young-looking 65-year-old widow and an only child. My husband was also an only child. My parents are dead. I have no nieces or nephews, and my aunts and uncles are all dead, except one uncle by marriage who is 97 and lives in another state. Is there a support group for people who are all alone in the world? Living without family is the most horrible existence there is, especially when your health is not good. Friends are not the same. You still have to go home to an empty house.
Regarding the sentence in bold, I was wondering what the use of "there is" is.
Is it a phrase of emphasis?
Will the semantics or the tone differ if "there is" was deleted?

Best Wishes
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"there is" is wordy and unecessary. It should be deleted, and its deletion would not change the meaning, tone or emphasis of the sentence.

Chris
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Anonymous:
Hi there!

I totally understand where you are coming from! I am in the same situation too! I did'nt have a happy childhood and ranaway at 16 years old as was extremely unhappy at home. I tryed to go via my dad, whom I never knew all my life as could'nt run anymore. My dreams (the ideal world at the time) was that he may be able to help me but, he, instead put me in a homeless hostel for children.
I stayed there for a while and then, met a guy. Young, and with "rose tinted glasses" I thought he would be the one to sweep me off of my feet! He, was charming until he raised his first hand after that violence continued. I used to get presents as sorrys! Because of my past anything was better then my previous life at home. I after many years seemed to become almost a magnet to these sort of men and four years ago was lucky to be alive after an extremely violent relationship that left me feeling totally helpless! I could'nt pick up the phone to anyone as did'nt have the support! So, although I should have taken this guy to court! Due to a serious head injury I fled the town! I had little money and decided to work in France for the season! I then, miraculously ended up in the West Indies would you believe! I just needed to keep on running as I did'nt know what to do? I had to go back to my home town last year as was very ill with what turned out to be a clot on the lung!! also, I had Glandular fever and a cyst removed from my groin!! I had to live in terrible conditions in a basement of a hotel (cheap rent) as did'nt have the support at the time! I have come back to Guadeloupe and, my boyfriend is not the same person! He goes out and leaves me in the flat, he does'nt answer his phone when I call and am sure he has someone else on the side! I have lost real contact (due to his control) so, I can't ring a friend or tell my family either! I have no money at the moment and have m.e. as well as lesions on my brain from my head injury! This is a sad story I know and I am young too at 31 years old! I used to have a lot more confidence and was always told how I was a beautiful looking women now I have none at all! Everyday I battle with my sanity to keep my head together which, believe you me is tough! So, I hope this has helped you to realise there are people like you out there! Be fortunate at least that you have your own home! If you need someone to talk with I will be happy to be an ear or (electronical) so to speak should you need to get things of of your chest at all! You keep positive okay and although this might seem a dull story it is at least, I hope, some kind of help to you and reason to keep going with your life as you and as well me too, there is always someone worse off!

Take care! Leah xxEmotion: smile
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Anonymous:
hi I've taken the time to read your sad story. I just happened to goggle " people without family". I really felt like i couldn't be the only good person out there with out someone to call my family. I was kicked out at 17. I was a serious student and at that time was enrolled in my second year of civil engineering. My mother has been the divider. She has always been very physically and mentally abusive. At 17 my mother made a choice to believe her husband lies about abusing me sexually, and i was told to leave the house. At that time my mother told aunts uncles and the entire family that i tried to take her husband. Many years later the truth surfaced. they got a divorce and wanted me to help them. Lol. Through the years I've had lots of therapy for all the bull. I finished my schooling and have become a successful career person. I too had nothing other than my pets, so I've traveled all over the united states for work. The last couple of years have been the worst. I've gotten married and didn't have anyone there for me. It was beautiful, but it would have been nice to see a familiar face. I've also gotten pregnant with my first child, and still my mother wouldn't try to mend things between us. The baby is six months old now and i have on one to share things with. I might have just as well hatched from an egg. I'm so sad for my little girl, because she has inherited this loneliness. My husband is much older and all of his family is gone. So am i cursed? I at least have a child that has saved me from sure distruction. It's not about feeling better knowing someones story is sadder than yours. It's about supporting each other. And knowing You're not alone. Nice to meet you and know You've got a friend. ~Layla
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Anonymous:
Hi,

It's by coincidence that I read your post this morning. Just try to hang in there. It's not easy living without family and you're right friends are not the same.
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Anonymous:
The woman is asking for a support group. What does it matter about her writing "there is". You need to go to a chat room about grammar, english, correction of writing material. What does your comments have to do with this womans suffering?
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exodejavuHello,http://www.creators.com/lifestylefeatures/annies-mailbox/annie-s-mailbox-r-2009-03-05.html(Annie's Mailbox® by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar)What follows is one part of a letter on that page.
I am a very young-looking 65-year-old widow and an only child. My husband was also an only child. My parents are dead. I have no nieces or nephews, and my aunts and uncles are all dead, except one uncle by marriage who is 97 and lives in another state.Is there a support group for people who are all alone in the world? Living without family is the most horrible existence there is, especially when your health is not good. Friends are not the same. You still have to go home to an empty house.
Regarding the sentence in bold, I was wondering what the use of "there is" is.Is it a phrase of emphasis?Will the semantics or the tone differ if "there is" was deleted?Best Wishes

Hi all,

I wondered if the lady who posted this is still around? I would like to chat as I am in the same situation.....

K
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Anonymous:
I have often tried to find a support group like you mentioned, I thought I was the only person with no family. As far as I know there is no such support group. I understand how you feel, not having parents or siblings, nieces, nephews, aunts, uncles, cousins, no family history. A family history starts with me. It is a very lonely existence and as you say friends are not the same as family, I am sure I have a fairy tale idea of what it would be like to have family. At Christmas and other holidays, people spend these times with their families, there are no family functions, birthdays, weddings, christenings or the like - how I would long to belong in a family. I understand how you feel and wish you well.
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AnonymousI have often tried to find a support group like you mentioned, I thought I was the only person with no family. As far as I know there is no such support group. I understand how you feel, not having parents or siblings, nieces, nephews, aunts, uncles, cousins, no family history. A family history starts with me. It is a very lonely existence and as you say friends are not the same as family, I am sure I have a fairy tale idea of what it would be like to have family. At Christmas and other holidays, people spend these times with their families, there are no family functions, birthdays, weddings, christenings or the like - how I would long to belong in a family. I understand how you feel and wish you well.

Hello my love,

I keep reading in the papers this week about the increase in isolation in the UK. Apparently numbers are growing rapidly. And yes I agree we are inclined to think "the grass is greener" on the other side but if you have a family then those people have no idea what it is like. I wonder how we can get a support group going? I bet all towns could do with one and a national central point to gel it all together. Id do it myself but I campaign for animals and that keeps me very busy, but I could certainly help with it. Sites like these are too fractured in my opinion but at least if we keep posting on a regular basis, something might happen?
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