How do traditional and modern parenting
styles influence male and female children? In the ancient times or modern
society, it is an invariable fact that children are like animals’ offspring
that they have to be raised by parents. Without parents, both human children
and animal offspring do not know how to live. They do not know how to eat,
walk, and speak. Therefore, parents are playing important roles for their
children. In fact, the characteristics of the children in the future are determined
by what parenting styles the parents have in modern China. There are no differences between
traditional or modern Chinese parenting styles. Parents take care of their
children, so they grow up healthy and happy. However, in traditional Chinese
belief, male children are taught to have a tough personality and should be independent,
whereas females are taught more about dressing and could be prone to dependency.
Whether
in traditional or modern Chinese parenting styles, parents take care of their
children. Not only do parents want to give happy childhoods to their children,
but parents also want to let their children grow up healthy. Parents do
whatever good for their children because the children are a part of the parents’
lives; otherwise, parents would not have planned to give birth whether
traditional or modern parents. When male or female children are hungry, parents
feed them at the same time. After knowing whether the male nor the female children
get sick, parents drop their work and go look after their children immediately.
No matter what mistake either the male or the female children make, their
parents must protect them at the drop of a hat. For example, if children have a
fight with other classmates and almost get suspended from school for bad
conduct, their parents must help their children to ask the school for
forgiveness. In short, parents cherish their male or female children very much
both in traditional or modern parenting styles.
Parents teach
boys and girls different perspective of choosing couple. Females are taught to
marry a rich male instead of handsome males. For the reason that good
appearances will not stay long, yet money can improve girls’ qualities of
lives. For instance, if girls marry attractive boys as their husbands, girls
may be disappointed when the boys become older and lack money. On the other
hand, males are taught to marry a tender female, and it does not matter whether
the girls are rich or not. Parents keep telling their sons that a tender wife
is able to take care of the family members, so men can concentrate jobs on
earning money for the wife. As a result, girls and boys will have a good family
in the future if follow what their parents have taught to them.
Boys
may be encouraged to be independent by their parents, yet girls may be influenced
by parents to be dependent. Being independent, boys are capable of solving
problem in daily life. Therefore, parents will pay less attention to boys and
let boys know that they have the responsibilities to take care of themselves.
For example, boys have to wash their dirty clothes and organize their rooms;
otherwise, boys will become lazy and messy. On the other hand, girls usually get
greater care from parents. In many parents’ point of view, girls are
traditionally weak. If parents do not
pay much more attention to girls, the girls may not know how to deal with some
certain problems, such as physical injury and hostile treatment by boys. For
example, girls are easily teased by boys because they are usually kind and not
physically strong. Parents, as a result, have to spend more time protecting
their daughters than boys. After the unbalanced consideration for male and female
children, boys may be independent and girls may be dependent.
Indeed,
either male or female children should be grateful to their parents for raising
them. Even though there may not have been the same care between boys and girls,
they both learn significant lessons. During parenting, boys understand knowledge
is essential for them, and they should know how to look after themselves, such
as washing clothes and organizing their room; on the other hands, girls learn
how to dress for an attractive appearance and to be tender. If male and female
children are influenced by this kind of parenting style, children could
probably have a wonderful family in the future.