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In Indian culture marriage is a process that is decided on by the parents. The parents look for an individual that has a good reputation, well educated, amount of money and many other factors. The children believe the parents are wiser and would make a better decision choosing their partner for them, rather then them doing it themselves. The way marriage is in my family is similar to the Indians except, the parents aren’t the ones who choose.
In Indian culture the marriage partner is chosen based solely on what the parents think. The child meets the person once and they talk for some time. This is after the person has already been chosen to be their marriage partner. They are forced into living with this person for their entire life most likely after one conversation. This differs greatly in my family. In my family the person getting married usually dated the person they are planning on marrying for a while. They would have to be accepted by the family and comfortable with everyone. The parents of both the people planning on getting married would have to have a good relationship, otherwise the marriage isn’t happening.
The Indian parents look for someone who has a good reputation. If they are looking for a husband for their daughter, a man with money is essential because that is a sign that he could take good care of her. In my family, reputation isn’t much of a problem. Unless the person is known for doing something drastic such as being a murderer or a thief. Most males in my family look for someone who is on the same level financially as them. They don’t want to be supported by the woman, both partners must play their role.
Indian parents don’t only look for materialistic things, they try to find someone who has nice physical features, tall, light skin, no glasses etc.. This may sound fair at first but, what if the parent and the child have different preferences in people? In my family the parents don’t view the person's physical appearance, they care more about the personality. Personality is very important to parents in my family because from ones personality you can almost tell what they are about. They want someone who isn’t afraid to speak their mind and show independence.
In Indian culture If a women is seen on the bus or on the street, that isn’t a good quality. In my family that wouldn’t be a problem because the husband isn’t expected to do every thing outside the house and the women isn’t expected to do everything inside the house. If a women doesn’t have a job during a marriage she is considered lazy or to dependent which isn’t a good way to be known in my family; but if a women is out all the time the family may begin to think she is doing something else such as cheating.
Although in my family the parents don’t choose the person to marry their child with, their opinions and advice is very essential part of the person the child marries. If the parent doesn’t like the person then the child most likely won’t get married to that person. In the end the child is the one who chooses who they are marrying, the parent is just their to support them during their choosing. Parents don’t want their children making a rash decision on such a big event like marriage. It is to be taken seriously, that is why they are so concerned with the choices the child makes.