Saving Virginity For Marriage: Can One Find A Virgin For the Perfect Marriage?

Hi shahriar and languagelover, i'm just new in this forum. Not really here for the language lessldons, although it is interesting to find a place to chat where ppl share their opinions and feelings and friendships for learning english. was just lookin for somethin to pass time, its 2am here in london, i'm in holidays, summer. no job, as of yet, that is. so i'm bored sitting in my room at the halls most of the day. either i'm reading books, mags, eatin food, workin out, browsin, or chattin wid frnds.

neways, the virginity issue. i aint married, i'm a guy who's never had a girlfriend, so i'm obviously a virgin. and i'm not at all bothered about it at the moment. but i'll admit i am a little worried about my relationship skills since i havent been able to get along with girls in my halls or my class that well, not as well as many other guys in my class. so i feel a bit complex, which is probably what shahriar is experiencing. i think u need to take it easy man. language lover has given u some good advice, u need to get into a relationship and just know someone who u think has similar interests. virginity might be one of them. dont tell me u will be embarassed to discuss that with a person u honestly like and trust. so i mean rest the topic rite now on ur mind and try to find someone somewhere (whether in california, whereever else u go, or on the net) who u can relate to n communicate regularly. lotsa advice frm a guy who can barely manage conversations himself. well, i'm trying. as for givin up virginity, man we all want to do it as soon as possible the rite way. as a muslim, i would prefer doing it after marriage. but i dont condemn the western practice of bein a couple based on understanding each other. thats also a way of living, although very risky and shady at times.

i was curious why language lover went to so much trouble to explain so much about how to cope with this whole anxiety issue? i'm also curious to kno her identity if she doesnt mind, just for the sake of knowing someone who is so compassionate for a confused and innocent guy's worries. may we see ur picture as well. lets see a very honest and gracious person's face.

luv u guys.

Cyberman06

Handsomemale

...yes it is a serious topic for me, too. I can not find solution till now, but like I said perhaps travelling out can help. Not guaranteed though. But the more you see and talk around the greater chances to meet the right one. As I mentioned , I am not a virgin myself and was hurt number of times through various lies. I would really advise you to keep on searching for the love, loyalty, respect, truth, innosence and that of cource come with both mental and phisical purity - virginity. Do not be discouraged and mislead because there are so many people on earth! (...i need to remind that myself, too)...

I wish those girls who had unhappy marrage find what they look for. But this talk , I guess, is more about those girls who are ignorant and think that their feminin beauty will bring everything in life. Unfortunetly, they forget about some true things: honesty and purity. And that they are mothers to be. What a beatiful word - mother!  Partly because of media and peer pressures and lack of disciplene. Girls tend to go on and do things at a very young age. And use themselve for fun, pleasure and etc...forgetting the loyalty and moral values and becoming less determined in life.....as if, who cares....Again, I wish not critise any one. And there are also many nice guys who's life gets ruined because she thought she liked him. But for real, she never knew what the true love is about.

I am not a good example myself. Not a virgin anymore. It is just that I've grown to realise the beauty of girl's virginity. These are not only my words. These been said before at different times and civilizations. Think about it. The people kept it important and it still is in some cultures. There are many people who care. It sure has a reason. It goes on and comes to us over the times. And I guess it is important to talk about it , so to remind those girls how special they are and so they also dont give up to random boy friends types of relationships. These will not make them good mothers in society.

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Alex, Edinburgh, Scotland

I sign myself under that. I also never had a virgin and I never will. We westeners have different attitude toward love. Love=sex for us. It's something you buy in the supermarket and throw it away after a period of time. That's why we are so emotionally shallow and lonelly individualists. I can't be happily married to a wife who had a 100 man before me. That kind of a woman will cheat and show no respect towards me or other man, because she obviously has issues about opposite sex. True love is unattainable. Who thinks differently is living in dreams.

Why not?..I'm sure you have at least..yourself..ahem..I'm joking..I concede you two or three women..

i'm a girl originally muslim. my family is originally from morocco but i live in spain for many years and now i'm one more in here but...i still think that virginity has to be something to keep until marriage. and this doesnt have any relashion with my religion, because i'm not religious at all. this is all because it is immoral to have sex before marriage. Imagine ,my friend, that you fuck 276345 girls of your college. ok this is not very difficult. there are many bitches in every street you walk. no problem. and later you walk in thepark on sunday in the morning and you see one of that girls you fucked and you say : hey i fucked this girl...

how beautiful scene! and come on! if you go in the world fucking whoever you find like a stupid and you go on comparing each new one with the old ones..when will you find the beauty between you and a person? when you marry, suposedly with the women of your life, what beautiful feeling will be between you two? you will fuck her ok but it will be same with fuking the girl of the pizzas and the waitress of the bar. we have to wait a little and keep controling our sexual desires. do you think that your friends, the professional fuckers, have a super life like this? no. it is you who will have a super life if you and your girl feel something unique in the world. wouldnt you like to fly together you and her? only you and her. no waitress no pizza girls in your lives.

you have to be proud becayuse you are making something fantastic. to fuck isnt difficuklt but to want to feel something ultra beautiful with another human is wonderful. if i want to be fucked i can open my legs now and no problem. in 2 sec i'm not virgin. but i woud like a boy who is stupid like me to take our love until the sky together.

yeah maybe when i will finish studying i will be an old women and iwont find a virgin in the world. no problem. we are two for now. for sure there are more people. and no need to go to iran bla bla. the virginity doesnt have anything with religion. the ignorance yes..

hey i would like too much you to contact me. we could speak. i have never think there were somebody from muslim family living a life like mine and ideas like mine ones.  If you want to contct me i will be waiting you, really. this is my email adress: <removed by a mod. Please add it to your profile.> and my name is Najla.

see you soon!