Shahriar, I am surprised to see that you seem to be impatient in your search for a woman to love, even with your exacting standards. It is not that virgin women are all that rare, but finding someone who is a virgin, believes in the same things that you do, and is a match for your temperament, is going to take time.

I shall not try to make you deviate from your views regarding virginity - it is clear that this is something very dear to you. I myself am determined to stay a virgin till I get married(lo-o-ng time from now ), but I do not care much about my prospective husband's virginity. If anything, I think it would be best if he had had previous experience - otherwise we would both be completely clueless

Do not lose heart - I am sure there are a lot of virgin women, waiting for a man with equally high principles. Just try not to make a very big issue about it - it makes you sound obsessive, which is not a very attractive quality in anyone.

Good luck to you!

 - Joy

Eleven wrote:

if u can make sure that u'll finally be together,sex is ok

Would you please give me that recipe which makes people be sure they'll be together before marriage?

Hi Shahriar and all the people reading this.. I am truly delighted to know that I am not the only one looking for virgin. I am 27 y.o. male...studied long enough, travelled around, was in militray and oil rigs...not the best of life when you are student, soldier, worker...etc..Most spoiled women would not like that. They'd go for quick cash and easy life...I am not blaming anyone, but is just that I was hurt well enough in my life to realize that I am actually looking for honesty, purity, respect, love, trust. I will never find this in woman that had sex before. You may challenge me on this, but I was looking for honesty and loyalty from "her" who had other boyfriends before and its like talking to a wall. Girls change physically, their chemistry changes, i.e. they change metally and spiritually. It's not just my obervation and experience (I am virgin myself, unfortunatelly), but virginity was also important at various times and in different civilizations. Today, indeed, we are exposed to such a freedom that we forget the boundary of good and evil. I am not religious, travelled and lived in Islam, Chistianity, Communism, Capitalism, Buddism...I like to study people,idelogies, psychology, religions, nature and think of life in general broad terms. I am free thinker. The thought of marrying a virgin was comming to me for almost a few years now. But it is now being strong than ever before. So that even when I see beatiful girl and it may seem as we can do sex.. i would deny it. If someone tells me I be like this five or six years ago I wont believe it. I'd reckon that my life I be always happy and not concerned about some boring purity, honesty, loyalty and etc...Now I realize strong than ever before how it is actually important to find virgin girl. And I am ready to sacrifice many things in my life. I am willing to travell to some remote location and live in a barn as long as we are together and this is what she needs. As I mentioned I am not virgin, by saying this I mean to be honest and straight forward. She will know every little bit about my past. It is in my interest to treat my future virgin girl as the queen and serve her with honesty, trust, help and all she may need. The virgin deserves it. I've not met anyone yet that I'd accept and day by day I get hurt by seeing many beatiful girls and seeing how they waste themselves in random dates. I am not critisizing and preaching anyone. My opinion on virginity goes stronger day by day and this is what makes me feel happy. To know that she is there waiting for me. And because I am grown up to understand and appreciate virginity - is the gift! There so many things to be said and I guess of it was already mentioned by others in here. I just felt so much alike with most of you guys. I also found this site by searching in googles. Please advise me if you can on how to find vigin girl. I will be very greatful to you for that..I am trying to go churches now...different ones...searching on line, and just trying to emphasize my opinion to people around me (if we talk about dates, romance, love, marrage)...but i guess i should travell out some place. And I want YOU all guys and gilrs to be strong and courage you to continue YOUR search for the right partner. Do not listen to those who try to divert you from your path and advise you to relax and look for other thing in life and consider other qualities. Searching for honesty, loyalty, virginity is not a sin. It is the gift to be mature and apprecite the purity. Not everyone understands it. I am also the only one among my friends who is looking for virgin. Many people that I speak with just dont even understand what I am talking about. And they wont. We are all different and we all have various purposes and destenies in life. And it is also that the source of your thought is meant to be your way. This is your desteny to find the right person. Most of us just so sure that our thought and ideas totally belong to our brains. But I suspect we have some singnals, frequency waves, etc (name it whatever) but we looking for things and it has a reason behind it. It is not just a random thought that we are looking for the virgin. We are shown the right direction. It is nothing religious here. But a simple obseration of life and people. Everything happens for a reason.. P.S. My e-mail is <removed by a mod. Please add it to your profile.> (well, i'm not that handsome and too horrible either... lol, its just an e-mail nick)...please drop me a line with advise or a comment since I may not be on this forum very often..Just to let you know that I may not feel happy to those trying to discourage my thoughts to someother things in life. Trust me I had enough of those.

I feel very similar and I'm glad to hear that I'm not alone in my search.. I now don't feel so bad.. This is a secret I have kept for many years. I am a Christian, however it has nothing to do with my religious beliefs. I believe I began to be obsessed when I was around 16 years old or so, after hearing a friend say "you know she will always love her first" he was referring to his girlfriend. I do believe that from that moment on I felt totally different about relationships with women. I believe there is some truth to that statement.. But I didn't just take his word for it, I began to secretly research the topic by looking for books on the subject and questioning women. I must say I was not happy with the results of my secret survey. Women do hold a special place in their heart for their first, most of the time. Besides it is a gift, so why would she want to give this part of herself to a boyfriend and not to her husband. I have never been married, and I am sure people would think I am only using this as an excuse not to get married, this is absolutely not true. I would like to be married, and I know I would cherish her, and treat my wife like a queen for many reasons. Many times I have tried to dismiss the thought and planned on finding a non virgin to marry, but I am afraid that our marrige might fail. I'm sure people would think there is something wrong with me, but to tell you the truth, I really am very normal, other than this. :) It would be very easy for me to find a non virgin wife, I have many qualities, however, this is something I feel is important.

If someone can lead me in the right direction to findinng a virgin to marry, please let me know at <removed by a mod. Please add it to your profile.> 

Thanks

...yes it is a serious topic for me, too. I can not find solution till now, but like I said perhaps travelling out can help. Not guaranteed though. But the more you see and talk around the greater chances to meet the right one. As I mentioned , I am not a virgin myself and was hurt number of times through various lies. I would really advise you to keep on searching for the love, loyalty, respect, truth, innosence and that of cource come with both mental and phisical purity - virginity. Do not be discouraged and mislead because there are so many people on earth! (...i need to remind that myself, too)...

I wish those girls who had unhappy marrage find what they look for. But this talk , I guess, is more about those girls who are ignorant and think that their feminin beauty will bring everything in life. Unfortunetly, they forget about some true things: honesty and purity. And that they are mothers to be. What a beatiful word - mother!  Partly because of media and peer pressures and lack of disciplene. Girls tend to go on and do things at a very young age. And use themselve for fun, pleasure and etc...forgetting the loyalty and moral values and becoming less determined in life.....as if, who cares....Again, I wish not critise any one. And there are also many nice guys who's life gets ruined because she thought she liked him. But for real, she never knew what the true love is about.

I am not a good example myself. Not a virgin anymore. It is just that I've grown to realise the beauty of girl's virginity. These are not only my words. These been said before at different times and civilizations. Think about it. The people kept it important and it still is in some cultures. There are many people who care. It sure has a reason. It goes on and comes to us over the times. And I guess it is important to talk about it , so to remind those girls how special they are and so they also dont give up to random boy friends types of relationships. These will not make them good mothers in society.

<email address removed by a mod. Please add it to your profile.>
Alex, Edinburgh, Scotland