I completely understand your point of view and strongly support you I think you are one of the few  men of my age that would understand mine. I mean I'm about to get my degree at Santiago university, I recently turned 23 years old and just yesteday I told my boyfriend that I don't want to make love 'til we marry since he was the one that always said he wants to marry me. He's 25 and lives abroad. We love each other very much and I'm sooo in love with him. Believe me when I say it's harder for me to ask him to wait for me than for him to hear what I'm asking. Because if I didn't love him and want him, then I wouldn't mind at all. But my reasons are also religious, God  the way he reacted was ok could have been worse he thinks though that he did or said something that made me lose faith in him and that's why I don't want to sleep with him. I explained him my religious reasons and how I never expected him to be a virgin as well since he lost his when he was my age. Truth is, I know that if he waits for me and I'm waiting for him too the reward will be so much greater in a way. It would have a complete different meaning. But of course, he has already lots his and I asked him whether he thinks he can wait for me. I'm sick of men that in a way get obsessed with my look and just want to have sex with me. He's different, I know he loves me but he has given up smoking for me and he said then what would I say if he wanted to get back to smoking? I said that would be the end of our relationship because  I  wouldn't be able to take to  see him destroying himself  that way. I didn't want to leave him, but just the thought of him going back to that made me got nuts.  then, he was really affected  and emotional. Then, since he saw my drastic reaction he said basically that cigarettes are not more importanmt to him than me. I'm actually thinking of giving in if it's that important to him. He said he respects that, but  I know he loves me and needs me as much as me him. This is a huge dilehma because I know what God expects from me, and I know my boyfriend dreams of the day when he can consumate our relationship physically as well. He values me for who I am, I know he told me he knows how special I am and it is not the first time he tells me that. But he is hurt, I know he is, he says he is not mad at me or anything, but he couldn't believe how quickly I wanted to break-up with him. Thing is that for me cigarettes are rubbish, and he is an awesome human being, even if he was not my boyfriend I would most definately admire him and want someone like him as my boyfriend. I felt like a failure like I was incapable of helping him, that's the way I felt. He means sooo much to me, and like I said this is not lack of love or trust, it's only my way to remain constant in my beliefs, to try to show God that I do love him and that His will is very impotant for me too. And at the same time, I'm not trying to push my boyfriend away, I belong to him, my body, mind and soul.I told him that noone else, but him is allowed to kiss me, tocuh me and eventually make love to me. My body is reserved to him, but I belong to him completely. I'm asking him to postpone that day, to wait for and with me to be with each other, that's what I'm asking. I'm not denying myself to him forever. But, God if this was the fifteenth century maybe it would something a lot more reasonable to ask. Nowdays everyone seem to lose thier virginity to a very early age. I know you'll find someone who tyruly understand you, and who will want exactly the same you want. I'm sure there must be someone out there that will. And thatnks a lot for showing that there are also men that value their nown virginity and women's virginity as well.