Doll  +  393317 Tue, 17 Jul 07 07:42 PM  David wrote: How do you equate a quick slap on the bum with the making of a terrorist.Sounds very far fetched. Terrorism is to do with fanaticism and hatred not love and care. Obviously no one is suggesting brutality.    Hello David,    I respect your thoughts but to me terrosim starts just from the family. Beating a child with belt? Can you imagine this? This child will want to take revenge and guess what he will do. I will tell you, he will take his revenge by beating youngers or killing people. Even worse, he may think that this is the right way because he learnt so. Terrorism is not fanaticism, terrorism is the bad memories in our lives, terorism is the war in our brain.   Take care. Doll Joined on Sat, Mar 10 2007 Senior Member 2,811

	julielai  +  393373 Tue, 17 Jul 07 10:20 PM Hi Doll, Do you mean those who have been beaten by a belt are going to kill? Cheers. julielai Joined on Sun, Oct 24 2004 Senior Member 3,827 Just another blogger (http://hk.myblog.yahoo.com/julie-lai)

	Doll  +  393396 Tue, 17 Jul 07 11:23 PM Yes. With a high probability yes. Doll

	nona the brit  +  393497 Wed, 18 Jul 07 09:06 AM Ah, well I can't agree with you there Doll. Otherwise the world would be full of killers? nona the brit Joined on Wed, Sep 22 2004 England Veteran Member 11,713 The name says it all.

	Doll  +  393654 Wed, 18 Jul 07 07:17 PM Yes I admit that I exaggerated a bit.  Well, to be more correct, I say beaten childeren have a susceptibility to behave worse than the others. Doll

	julielai  +  393684 Wed, 18 Jul 07 08:14 PM That's an interesting idea, Doll.  Thanks for sharing. julielai

	BW2/3  +  399035 Wed, 01 Aug 07 01:39 AM I don't believe in spanking. Spanking their butts make them scare you. That don't solve what the prbolem is. I think I would reason with them and explain to them why they are wrong. Anyways, I have no kids yet. Who cares what I say? BW2/3 Joined on Sat, Oct 22 2005 Contributing Member 1,283 Carpe diem!!

	Sojourner_lala  +  399941 Fri, 03 Aug 07 10:13 AM Punishment and praise are both essential factors on eductating our chidren.According to the  result of Skinner's study on behavor,praise are much more advanced than punishment .Nevertheless,it's also useful to punish  children ,which can reduce the wrong  behavior . Spanking the child just limit on the physical state ,and it's easy to break the rule of  law.So we 've better  avoid spanking  child .The approach to  punish your child could be ,just as  refusing to buy the toy she or he really desire to get, or let it alone. However, respecting  your child  is  vital to his or her growth . Litstening  their words , trying to get into their world to understand their point , and don't forget to praise and encourage child when he or she perform very well at that age. Sojourner_lala Joined on Wed, Aug 1 2007 New Member 02

	Cvilla  +  405834 Fri, 17 Aug 07 05:28 PM  Sojourner_lala wrote: Punishment and praise are both essential factors on eductating our chidren.According to the  result of Skinner's study on behavor,praise are much more advanced than punishment .Nevertheless,it's also useful to punish  children ,which can reduce the wrong  behavior . Spanking the child just limit on the physical state ,and it's easy to break the rule of  law.So we 've better  avoid spanking  child .The approach to  punish your child could be ,just as  refusing to buy the toy she or he really desire to get, or let it alone. However, respecting  your child  is  vital to his or her growth . Litstening  their words , trying to get into their world to understand their point , and don't forget to praise and encourage child when he or she perform very well at that age. You have to be very careful, though. Praising should be limited to the beginnings of some activities, and not all; the level of praise should decrease as the child improves. Praising your children for every single thing they do will create the feeling that if they make a mistake they won't be praised, and this is counter-productive (they can easily develop the feeling that they will be rejected, and this is a very bad feeling for infants... even for grownups). Also, if the praise include some kind of reward, the toddler will develop the idea that the end of good behavior is getting rewards, instead of the benefit of the activity itself. Let's take, for example, the activity of putting the toys away after playing with them. Toddlers should be taught that they need to put their toys back in the closet in an orderly fashion because whenever they want to use them again, they will easily find them. Additionally, keeping the toys in a safe place will keep 'em from being broken. If you praise your children every single time they do this, they will forget about the importance of this activity. The moment you stop praising, they will stop putting the toys away. Why? Well, what's the purpose? "My parents no longer say that I did very well." So, yes, praise their achievements... but don't exaggerate. Cvilla Joined on Wed, Aug 15 2007 New Member 15