 YoungCalifornian wrote: |
| Stannum, I'm curious what exactly you feel is an appropriate method of disciplining a child? |
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Talking and time and effort.
It is my experience that all children want to please all adults.
It is my experience that if given the opportunity children will live their lives in the most economical manner possible creating and absorbing the least amount of pain.
I can never remember my father ever saying no to me.
I can never remember my father yelling at me.
I can clearly remember that my father never ever told me that I was worthless or useless or stupid!
My father did not tell me that I was good at everything but he encouraged me to make mistakes.
The clearest memory of such a situation ws wehn I was 16 and I desperately wanted to go on a camping weekend with a group of my mates and a group of girls. Mum just told me to ask dad.
I was totally convinced taht I was right and I used dad's own advice against him.
I didn't ask him for permission. I told him that I was going. I did not ask for permission because this did not give dad the ability to easily refuse to give the permission.
I acted as though I did not need permission and this was correct. I did not need permission, I needed guidance.
Two hours later I remember deciding that I didn't want to go camping anymore. I tried to feel cross at dad but he hadn's said no. He just gave up 2 hors of his evening to interact with me.
He then had a quick meal and fell into bed exhausted and I did not go off the rails as a teenager.
I am repaying my daughter the same honour now.
I am never too busy to interact with my immortality.
Stannum
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