 Old Man Gordon wrote: |
| It's all well and good to have opinions, but yours doesn't have support from the facts (It could in the future, but it doesn't as of now). |
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It was claimed for decades that there was no causative lnk between smoking cigarettes and contracting lung cancer. This did not stop millions of smokers from keeling over from lung cancer.
| Old Man Gordon wrote: |
| Messed up minds are no less common since corporal punishment was taken out of schools or reduced in homes. |
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How could you know this? What are your sources?
| Old Man Gordon wrote: |
| So, if spanking is 'physical assault', then forcing an apology is 'mental abuse'. |
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Utterly. A forced apology is worse than useless as it is apparent that if the apology is forced then the child does not consider that they have transgressed leaving you with a child who considers that they are being punished by being forced to say sorry for something that they did not consider to be wrong.
How would you feel if your boss forced you to apologise for doing something that you did not consider to be wrong or be summarily sacked?
| Old Man Gordon wrote: |
| Taking away a toy as a punishment for bad behavior should be re-termed 'stealing'. |
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Yes it should but only if all seven proofs of larceny are present. If the toy is to be permentently removed from the child it could be stealing but this is bringing the criminal law into parental children relations and this is not logical.
| Old Man Gordon wrote: |
| Certainly a time out in a child's room should properly be called isolation, hence 'emotional abuse.' |
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Any child requiring discipline is obviously emotionally distraught and to deprive such a child of emotional support is wicked behaviour by the person who should be most caring of that child.
Again this is like solitary confinement for a prisoner which is considered to be the one of the most extreme form of psychological abuse possible.
| Old Man Gordon wrote: |
| Maybe we should avoid all corrective responses and let our children just decide how they want to behave. |
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Maybe we should stop vacillating between extremes when dealing with our most valuable resource.
Maybe we should take the time to sit down and talk with our kids about what is troubling them reather than simply reacting when we perceive an error.
Our children are looking towards us as their parents for examples of how to live and what to do in a cricis.
If we demonstrate a reasoned response we will be more likely to produce a reasonable reasoning adult.
If we demonstrate a reactive punishment based approach to love we will reap the benefits of our sown wisdom when we are old and feeble and looking to our children for physical and emotional support. I chose to put in the hard yards when I was young and active and now as I decline my child is here for me.
Stannum