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Latest post Tue, Nov 1 2005 11:45 AM by nona the brit. 5 replies.
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Anonymous  +  152799 Sat, 29 Oct 05 01:55 PM
I am a mother of 2 young children with ages 5 and 6. I am afraid that after 10 years they will engage in sexual activity and the inescapable pregnancy will result. I am working part time in a university clinic and I hear stories of students going into sexual promiscuity. They say sex is very satisfying , that's why they do it frequently and in emergency rooms of hospital I noticed the increasing number of young pregnant women. How fearful I am for the future of my children! I hope you can share your views regarding the topic. Thanks.Smile [:)]
nona the brit  +  153463 Mon, 31 Oct 05 09:32 AM

Goodness me! I think there are more urgent things to worry about with a 5 and 6 year old? Smile [:)]

 

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Oh, I hope in the future you can be a parent. And it is different when you are single than when you have children. That is why I am seeking opinions on this forum regarding the topic for me to be enlightened so that my anxiety will lessen. Thanks anyway for the comment nona the brit. I hope you can express views on the topic.
Henrietta  +  153495 Mon, 31 Oct 05 01:12 PM

Probably the best thing you could do is educate your children about safe sex... they're probably still too young though! I'd wait a few more years, perhaps till they hit puberty? But that's just my opinion...some people think that children are never too young to learn about these things. If you're not sure on how to approach the subject with them, I suggest you shop around for books...

I found one on play.com that looks promising:

http://www.play.com/play247.asp?page=title&r=BOOK&title=631579&p=91&g=148&pa=sr

 

Hope this helps...
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Robyn Terri  +  153716 Tue, 01 Nov 05 12:25 AM
Remember that were you work you only see the people that need help. You don't see the majority of young people who don't. 
No matter how much you love your kids and do your best to raise them with wisdom, in the end their life decisions are their own, and you will have to respect their right to make those decisions. But for now you have the joy of small children in your home. Enjoy them, today has enough problems of it's own without worrying about something in the future which more than likely will not be an issue.

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nona the brit  +  153849 Tue, 01 Nov 05 11:45 AM

Hi anon, I am a parent but I wasn't worrying about teen pregnancy when he was that age!

Still, just make sure your kids get a good sexual education and understand properly the processes and possible consequences (I don't agree with you that pregnancy is inevitable when you are having sex).  Make sure they understand about contraception and keep on giving them that message - including the boys if you have them as it takes two to tango! If your beliefs are that pre-marital sex is wrong, then you need to put that over to them, but also be realistic and understand that they may not share that belief, so make sure they are educated and prepared just in case. It is not terrible to buy your teenager a pack of condoms - better that they have safe sex than unsafe sex and you are naive if you think your beliefs will have that much influence over them. Make sure they are brought up to believe in themselves and not to just follow the crowd so that they are better able to resist peer pressure.

As Robyn said, it isn't as much of an issue as you might imagine from watching Oprah etc, it is still quite unusual.  Most teenagers who get pregnant tend to be those with fewer positive other options open to them; they are not getting a good education, are not lining up for a good career, etc etc so they can see it as a good option and a way to join the adult world when other ways are not there for them. Make sure your kids have plenty of options and opportunities.

My son is 18 and a few of the kids who were at his school are having children already. One boy of 18 has just fathered his third child by three different girls. None of my son's close friends are in that situation though and they all think the ones who are, are completely barmy. They do just as much tut-tutting as we do about it. Why the difference? I'm not sure. His group of friends did no better at school or anything and many are unemployed (tough area) but they are all intelligent and have lots of interests and things going on in their lives, and a good network of friends. They all have loving families, whether with one or two parents, who have taken a genuine interest and actively raised their kids. The ones having babies are the ones who don't seem to have much else...

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