WHO/WHOM

We feel sorry for the boys whose money has been stolen.

I don't think that's a question! Did you want to know how to respond to such a statement? If so, you could say, "Yes, I do too. There are so many thieves about. Something ought to be done about it."

Whoop! I missed the subject line!

"We feel sorry for the boys because their money has been stolen" is probably what you want.

CJ

Since the statement form is "I told the news to him." or "I told the news to them" [Note the m's.], the corresponding interrogative or relative pronoun also has the m: It's he to whom I told the news. It's he whom I told the news to.

JT: Just because we have object him/them does not mean that "the corresponding interrogative or relative pronoun", must be used.

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The Grammar Book

They [prescriptive grammars] also tell us to always use in object position. A prescriptive grammar can be abused by those who insist on outdated conventions ... .
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Note that in everyday conversation, you are not ever going to hear anyone say "It's he to whom I told the news" or even "It's he who I told the news to". It just doesn't occur in everyday speech. In fact, it would be almost as rare to find it in modern writing as well.

JT: And in everyday conversation, you are unlikely to hear being used with near the frequency that you'll hear . Wouldn't you agree, Jim?

Just because we have object him/them does not mean that "the corresponding interrogative or relative pronoun", must be used.

True. So true, particularly because of the "must".

But in the context of a student question implicitly asking "What's all the fuss about 'who' and 'whom'?" I believe the student deserves some kind of easily grasped mnemonic/principle as an explanation, not just a dismissive "Don't bother with such stupidities", although frankly I am often tempted in that direction, as you surely recognize by my additional comments.

And in everyday conversation, you are unlikely to hear being used with near the frequency that you'll hear . Wouldn't you agree, Jim?

Come to California. Spend a month. Converse with as many people as you like. Take note of the number of times you hear "whom". I'll give you a dollar for each "whom" at the end of your stay. I doubt you'll have taxi fare to the airport for your trip back.

I think that pretty much answers whether I agree!

CJ

PS. Throw in a dollar for each "It is he" and "It is I". I don't think that taxi will go even another mile.