http://www.englishforums.com/English/TopicOfTheMoment/Forum38.htmDiscussions on anything and everything, all while helping you learn English. (Just like being in a bar!) Please register if you wish to post here.enXMOD (Build: 3616.28671)http://www.englishforums.com/English/WhatDoYouThinkOfMen/2/bbpzm/Post.htm#159133Mon, 25 May 2009 20:26:24 GMT946f00bb-57d3-4b7b-a9a2-059b5341af52:159133nona the brit0http://www.englishforums.com/English/WhatDoYouThinkOfMen/2/bbpzm/Post.htm#159133http://www.englishforums.com/English/comments38-159133.xmlAnonymous, If you feel that you are in danger, or that you could be in danger in the future, leave. If you feel frightened and unhappy all the time, leave. If you still love him and feel that the stroke has caused the behaviour, try discussing it with him and with a doctor, to see if there is something that can be done. Perhaps he is angry and distressed about his stroke and taking it out on you. This is not acceptable, but understandable short-term, but you need to make it clear that it cannot continue. Ask yourself, if your life continues in this way for the next 30 years, how will you feel about it. What will that you in the future wish you had done now?http://www.englishforums.com/English/WhatDoYouThinkOfMen/2/bbpzm/Post.htm#158936Mon, 25 May 2009 20:26:24 GMT946f00bb-57d3-4b7b-a9a2-059b5341af52:158936YoHf1http://www.englishforums.com/English/WhatDoYouThinkOfMen/2/bbpzm/Post.htm#158936http://www.englishforums.com/English/comments38-158936.xmlI prefer women...http://www.englishforums.com/English/WhatDoYouThinkOfMen/2/bbpzm/Post.htm#158922Mon, 25 May 2009 20:26:24 GMT946f00bb-57d3-4b7b-a9a2-059b5341af52:158922Anonymous2http://www.englishforums.com/English/WhatDoYouThinkOfMen/2/bbpzm/Post.htm#158922http://www.englishforums.com/English/comments38-158922.xmlIf a man has had an light stroke, and has a hot temper. Should I leave. It doesn't matter what I say or how I say it, he attacks me with rage in his voice. He is getting scarry. We might be moving to another town soon & I don't know what to do.http://www.englishforums.com/English/WhatDoYouThinkOfMen/2/bbpzm/Post.htm#123994Wed, 25 Mar 2009 21:26:24 GMT946f00bb-57d3-4b7b-a9a2-059b5341af52:123994Jenna3http://www.englishforums.com/English/WhatDoYouThinkOfMen/2/bbpzm/Post.htm#123994http://www.englishforums.com/English/comments38-123994.xmlHi Vance, I don't think that all men are as you describe. I am married to a wonderful, sensitive, loving man - exactly the opposite of what you described. I think that part of the problem with the men you meet may be your assumptions of who they are. How much time are you spending with these men getting to know them before commiting to a serious relationship with them? I have a friend who constantly picked men with tempers and personalities such as the ones you described. I think that people tend to fall into a pattern of the type of people they date/have relationships with. In this instance it sounds like you have fallen into a pattern with the type of men you are having relationships with and are having a hard time getting away...http://www.englishforums.com/English/WhatDoYouThinkOfMen/2/bbpzm/Post.htm#123617Wed, 25 Mar 2009 21:26:24 GMT946f00bb-57d3-4b7b-a9a2-059b5341af52:123617Anonymous4http://www.englishforums.com/English/WhatDoYouThinkOfMen/2/bbpzm/Post.htm#123617http://www.englishforums.com/English/comments38-123617.xmlHello Vance, I think that question of behaviour is same for men or women. Both have some plus or negative points. I will suggest you to read the following mentioned books, and I hope that they will help you to understand men better. They have helped me a lot. Books are :- "Why men don't listen and women can't read maps" and "Men are from mars. Women are from Venus" There are lot of things to learn from these books. Hope it will help you also. Best of luck. Harvinderhttp://www.englishforums.com/English/WhatDoYouThinkOfMen/bbpzm/post.htm#94116Sun, 25 Jan 2009 21:26:24 GMT946f00bb-57d3-4b7b-a9a2-059b5341af52:94116Guest5http://www.englishforums.com/English/WhatDoYouThinkOfMen/bbpzm/post.htm#94116http://www.englishforums.com/English/comments38-94116.xmlHey Vance, Well... Let me tell you that I never say "do this, or don't do that." What made you assume I did ? Nobody is assuming anything. How could they? Nobody knows you or what your situation is really like. They are just trying to make you stop and consider whether maybe it is something in your actions and words that makes these men react the way they do (in case you already haven't). Not everybody puts themselves in the other person's shoes when they are having an argument. Please don't feel like people are attacking you here, because that is not the case. But, from what you've told us, there seems to be a pattern in these different men's reactions, and that is why people here are suggesting that maybe it's something that...http://www.englishforums.com/English/WhatDoYouThinkOfMen/bbpzm/post.htm#93883Wed, 25 Mar 2009 21:26:24 GMT946f00bb-57d3-4b7b-a9a2-059b5341af52:93883Ja-Mez6http://www.englishforums.com/English/WhatDoYouThinkOfMen/bbpzm/post.htm#93883http://www.englishforums.com/English/comments38-93883.xml"I do not see it as the case with all other women" means he's trying to tell you he doesn't think all women are always dissatisfied with their man. And maybe you're just asking for too much. Ever think of what your guys feel about you? Peace.http://www.englishforums.com/English/WhatDoYouThinkOfMen/bbpzm/post.htm#93608Sat, 25 Apr 2009 20:26:24 GMT946f00bb-57d3-4b7b-a9a2-059b5341af52:93608Vance7http://www.englishforums.com/English/WhatDoYouThinkOfMen/bbpzm/post.htm#93608http://www.englishforums.com/English/comments38-93608.xmlI didn't understand this : ...."I do not see it as the case with all other woman". Perhaps it's my poor English And it's only a forum. Have a nice day.http://www.englishforums.com/English/WhatDoYouThinkOfMen/bbpzm/post.htm#93557Sun, 25 Jan 2009 21:26:24 GMT946f00bb-57d3-4b7b-a9a2-059b5341af52:93557eagle8http://www.englishforums.com/English/WhatDoYouThinkOfMen/bbpzm/post.htm#93557http://www.englishforums.com/English/comments38-93557.xmlHi, I will quote your own words "But I am still very disconcerted by men's behaviour -they never come up to my expectations " You have already mentioned that you are dissatisfied, I do not see it as the case with all other woman. AND I am not sure why others should stand up to your expectaions, it can happen other way round too, you might not have stood up to their expectations. Its only a perception.http://www.englishforums.com/English/WhatDoYouThinkOfMen/bbpzm/post.htm#93523Sun, 25 Jan 2009 21:26:24 GMT946f00bb-57d3-4b7b-a9a2-059b5341af52:93523Vance9http://www.englishforums.com/English/WhatDoYouThinkOfMen/bbpzm/post.htm#93523http://www.englishforums.com/English/comments38-93523.xmlWell, I know that everyone is supposed to be different. Although, come to think of it, they might no be so different as they are supposed to. I could easily give you examples of patterns of behaviour which can even be scientifically reproduced. Have you heard of this experiment on compliance with orders, whatever they might be, that was carried out by comportemental scientists ? I don't remember the exact figures, but out of 100 persons tested, a great number complied with the orders to "punish", including when the "punishment" entailed a high risk for the so-called "learners" (who were supposed to act as the subject of the experiment, when in fact they were actors). I seem to be out of the point. Maybe. But, although I thank you both...http://www.englishforums.com/English/WhatDoYouThinkOfMen/bbpzm/post.htm#93390Wed, 25 Mar 2009 21:26:24 GMT946f00bb-57d3-4b7b-a9a2-059b5341af52:93390Guest10http://www.englishforums.com/English/WhatDoYouThinkOfMen/bbpzm/post.htm#93390http://www.englishforums.com/English/comments38-93390.xmlYou really shouldn't generalise like that though, everyone is different. There are lots of sensitive men out there. Maybe you provoke that kind of behaviour with the way you word things, for example, maybe instead of saying "you don't do this, you don't do that" you could say "I'd really appreciate it if you did this" or "could you please do this for me?". Sometimes it's just a matter of how you approach a person. Good communication is vital to a healthy relationship.http://www.englishforums.com/English/WhatDoYouThinkOfMen/bbpzm/post.htm#93305Wed, 25 Feb 2009 21:26:24 GMT946f00bb-57d3-4b7b-a9a2-059b5341af52:93305Vance11http://www.englishforums.com/English/WhatDoYouThinkOfMen/bbpzm/post.htm#93305http://www.englishforums.com/English/comments38-93305.xmlThanks for your answer Fair Lady What is hystercis ? Do you mean that I, by my behaviour, triggers it ? I regularly go to see a psy (not a spy). Anyway, I don't know. I was speaking generally : I am under the impression that, generally, men are less sensitive than women. But maybe I always chose the wrong ones. I can't do anything to this. Just sit down and feel bad.http://www.englishforums.com/English/WhatDoYouThinkOfMen/bbpzm/post.htm#93163Wed, 25 Feb 2009 21:26:24 GMT946f00bb-57d3-4b7b-a9a2-059b5341af52:93163Fair Lady12http://www.englishforums.com/English/WhatDoYouThinkOfMen/bbpzm/post.htm#93163http://www.englishforums.com/English/comments38-93163.xmlThere's nothing wrong with men in this world, Vance, really I dare say its just your intuition that lets you down... I have a girlfriend who always selects wrong men - every time she feels inspired and says it's the one she'd searched for all her life, but in a little while she discovers that he's not like her ideal at all. May be you should be more attentive to your own behaviour, for you may promote such attitide unconsciously - try to analyse what promotes hystercis of the man, and how he behaves in other situations. And remeber that love makes us put up with the things otherwise unbearable It's really hard to say, what's the reason for such unhappy choices. And I think it's better to get an expert's advice on the subject - at least...http://www.englishforums.com/English/WhatDoYouThinkOfMen/bbpzm/post.htmWed, 25 Mar 2009 21:26:24 GMT946f00bb-57d3-4b7b-a9a2-059b5341af52:92866Vance13http://www.englishforums.com/English/WhatDoYouThinkOfMen/bbpzm/post.htmhttp://www.englishforums.com/English/comments38-92866.xmlHello Despite my pseudo, I a woman. Mind you, I am not a lesbian, a feminist or a man hater. I have tried several times to live in couple, this is the third really serious try. But I am still very disconcerted by men's behaviour -they never come up to my expectations -which aren't ecxessive according to me. What I have always only asked for is a little bit of consideration : taking into account what MY feelings ans MY emotional needs are. I dare say no man has really helped me when I had problems. On the other hand, when they do have difficulties, they make me feel as if I should listen to them and help them, sometimes in a very hypocritical way. For exemple, why do men who don't agree with you make a scandal, throwing out dishes...