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Friendship

broken heart — Fri, 08 Apr 2005 14:17:18 GMT

huh simply without a reason

Re: Friendship

vinodram — Fri, 08 Apr 2005 09:20:36 GMT

The most selfish 1 letter.."I"..Avoid it.
Most satisfactory 2 letters.."WE"..use it .
Most poisonous 3 letters..."EGO"..Kill it.
Most used 4 letter..."LOVE"...Value it.
Most Pleasing 5letters..."SMILE"...keep it.
Fastest spreading 6 letters.."RUMOUR"..Ignore it.
Hard working 7letters..."SUCCESS".. Achieve it.
Most Enviable 8 letters..."JEALOUSY"...Distance it.
Most Essential 9 letters..."PRINCIPLE"...Have it.
Most Divine 10 letters..."FRIENDSHIP"....Maintain it ...

Re: Friendship

vinodram — Fri, 08 Apr 2005 09:08:18 GMT

why Broken Heart why did your friend betrayed you ?

Re: Friendship

broken heart — Thu, 07 Apr 2005 19:11:33 GMT

hey guys i see that you all all looking for friendshipp and best friendss but look i think
its from your luck that you dont have one because friends al not always nice of good for your sake don't forget that they may betray or harm you just as what happened to me but anyway i i wish you would find good friends

Re: Friendship

Anwar24 — Wed, 06 Apr 2005 15:14:27 GMT

Dear friend.
My name is Anwar from Bangladesh. I would like to be your friend if you accept me.
I deeply bilieve that friendship is a very good idea. and it is very good idea e-mail each other to improve English.
So please write me if you like me.
I'm looking forward to your e-mail.
Best regards.
Anwar.

Re: Friendship

Anwar24 — Wed, 06 Apr 2005 15:06:13 GMT

Dear friend.
I would like be your friend if you accept me.
My name is Anwar 24 I'm from Bangladesh, i live in Dhaka it is the capital of Bangladesh and i work in a noe government organization as a very simple post. If you like me or want to my friend so please write me.
I'm looking forwords to your e-mail.
Best regards.
Anwar.

Re: Friendship

vinodram — Sun, 03 Apr 2005 16:42:30 GMT

On Friendship

By Margaret Mead and Rhoda Metraux

Few Americans stay put for a lifetime. We move from town to city to suburb, from high school to college in a different state, from a job in one region to a better job elsewhere, from the home where we raise our children to the home where we plan to live in retirement. With each move we are forever making new friends, who become pan of our new life at that time.

For many of us the summer is a special time for forming new friendships. Today millions of Americans vacation abroad and they go not only to see new sights but alsoâin those places where they do not feel too strangeâwith the hope of meeting new people. No one really expects a vacation trip to produce a close friend. But surely the beginning of a friendship is possible? Surely in every country people value friendship?

They do. The difficulty when strangers from two countries meet is not a lack of appreciation of friendship, but different expectations about what constitutes friendship and how it comes into being. In those European countries that Americans are most likely to visit, friendship is quite sharply distinguished from other, more casual relations, and is differently related to family life. For a Frenchman, a German or an Englishman friendship is usually more particularized and carries a heavier burden of commitment.

But as we use the word, "friend" can be applied to a wide range of relationshipsâto someone one has known for a few weeks in a new place, to a close business associate, to a childhood playmate, to a man or woman, to a trusted confidant. There are real differences among these relations for Americansâa friendship may be superficial, casual, situational or deep and enduring. But to a European, who sees only our surface behavior, the differences are not clear.

As they see it, people known and accepted temporarily, casually, flow in and out of Americans' homes with little ceremony and often with little personal commitment. They may be parents of the children's friends, house guests of neighbors, members of a committee, business associates from another town or even another country. Coming as a guest into an American home, the European visitor finds no visible landmarks. The atmosphere is relaxed. Most people, old and young, are called by first names.

Who, then, is a friend?

Even simple translation from one language to another is difficult, "You see," a Frenchman explains, "if I were to say to you in France, This is my good friend,' that person would not be as close to me someone about whom I said only, This is my friend.' Anyone about whom I have to say more is really less."

In France, as in many European countries, friends generally are of the same sex, and friendship is seen as basically a relationship between men. Frenchwomen laugh at the idea that "women can't be friends," but they also admit sometimes that for women "It's a different thing." And many French people doubt the possibility of a friendship between a man and a woman. There is also the kind of relationship within a groupâmen and women who have worked together for a long time, who may be very close, sharing great loyalty and warmth of feeling. They may call one another copainsâa word that in English becomes "friends" but has more the feeling of "pals" or "buddies." In French eyes this is not friendship, although two members of such a group may well be friends.

For the French, friendship is a one-to-one relationship that demands a keen awareness of the other person's intellect, temperament and particular interests. A friend is someone who draws out your own best qualities, with whom you sparkle and become more of whatever the friendship draws upon. Your political philosophy assumes more depth, appreciation of a play becomes sharper, taste in food or wine is accentuated, enjoyment of a sport is intensified.

And French friendships are compartmentalized. A man may play chess with a friend for thirty years without knowing his political opinions, or he may talk politics with him for as long a time without knowing about his personal life. Different friends fill different niches in each person's life. These friendships are not made part of family life. A friend is not expected to spend evenings being nice to children or courteous to a deaf grandmother. These duties, also serious and enjoined, are primarily for relatives. Men who are friends may meet in a cafe. Intellectual friends may meet in larger groups for evenings of conversation. Working people may meet at the little bistro where they drink and talk, far from the family. Marriage does not affect such friendships; wives do not have to be taken into account.

In the past in France, friendships of this kind seldom were open to any but intellectual women. Since most women's lives centered on their homes, their warmest relations with other women often went back to their girlhood. The special relationship of friendship is based on what the French value mostâon the mind, on compatibility of outlook, on vivid awareness of some chosen area of life.

Friendship heightens the sense of each person's individuality. Other relationships commanding as great loyalty and devotion have a different meaning. In World War II the first resistance groups formed in Paris were built on the foundation of les copains. But significantly, as time went on these little groups, whose lives rested in one another's hands, called themselves "families." Where each had a total responsibility for all, it was kinship ties that provided the model. And even today such ties, crossing every line of class and personal interest, remain binding on the survivors of these small, secret bands.

In Germany, in contrast with France, friendship is much more articulately a matter of feeling. Adolescents, boys and girls, form deeply sentimental attachments, walk and talk togetherânot so much to polish their wits as to share their hopes and fears and dreams, to form a common front against the world of school and family and to join in a kind of mutual discovery of each other's and their own inner life. Within the family, the closest relationship over a lifetime is between brothers and sisters. Outside the family, men and women find in their closest friends of the same sex the devotion of a sister, the loyalty of a brother. Appropriately, in Germany friends usually are brought into the family. Children call their father's and their mother's friends "uncle" and "aunt." Between French friends, who have chosen each other for the congeniality of their point of view, lively disagreement and sharpness of argument are the breath of life. But for Germans, whose friendships are based on mutuality of feeling, deep disagreement on any subject that matters to both is regarded as a tragedy. Like ties of kinship, ties of friendship are meant to be irrevocably binding. Young Germans who come to the United States have great difficulty in establishing such friendships with Americans. We view friendship more tentatively, subject to changes in intensity as people move, change their jobs, marry, or discover new interests.

English friendships follow still a different pattern. Their basis is shared activity. Activities at different stages of life may be of very different kindsâdiscovering a common interest in school, serving together in the armed forces, taking part in a foreign mission, staying in the same country house during a crisis. In the midst of the activity, whatever it may be, people fall into stepâsometimes two men or two women, sometimes two couples, sometimes three peopleâand find that they walk or play a game or tell stories or serve on a tiresome and exacting committee with the same easy anticipation of what each will do day by day or in some critical situation. Americans who have made English friends comment that, even years later, "you can take up just where you left off." Meeting after a long interval, friends are like a couple who begin to dance again when the orchestra strikes up after a pause. English friendships are formed outside the family circle, but they are not, as in Germany, contrapuntal to the family nor are they, as in France, separated from the family. And a break in an English friendship comes not necessarily as a result of some irreconcilable difference of viewpoint or feeling but instead as a result of misjudgment, where one friend seriously misjudges how the other will think or feel or act, so that suddenly they are out of step.

What, then, is friendship? Looking at these different styles, including our own, each of which is related to a whole way of life, are there common elements? There is the recognition that friendship, in contrast with kinship, invokes freedom of choice. A friend is someone who chooses and is chosen. Related to this is the sense each friend gives the other of being a special individual, on whatever grounds this recognition is based. And between friends there is inevitably a kind of equality of give-and-take. These similarities make the bridge between societies possible, and the American's characteristic openness to different styles of relationship makes it possible for him to find new friends abroad with whom he feels at home.

Source:
Mead, M. and Metraux, R. (1996) On Friendship. In Gillie, J., Ingle, S. and Mumford, H. (eds) Read to Write. Singapore: McGraw-Hill

Re: Friendship

seastar — Sat, 02 Apr 2005 16:51:48 GMT

hello

how are you? what is your name? how old are you?

I hope so see you soon

pervin

Re: Friendship

nga_vn87 — Fri, 09 Jul 2004 10:19:42 GMT

TRUE FRIENDSHIP

True friendship isn't seen with the eyes, it is felt with the heart, when there is trust, understanding, loyalty, and sharing. True friendship is a rare feeling, but when it is found it has a profound impact on our well-being, strength, and character.

True friendship does not need elaborate gifts
or spectacular events in order to be valuable or valued.
To ensure long-lasting quality and satisfaction,
true friendship only needs a few key ingredients:
undying loyalty, unmatched understanding, unsurpassed trust, deep and soulful secrets, and endless sharing. These ingredients, mixed with personality and a sense of humor, can make a friendship last a lifetime!

This is just a thank you, my friend, for all the wonderful and colorful special ingredients you've brought to my life!

(Source: positivethoughts.com)

Re: Friendship

nga_vn87 — Fri, 09 Jul 2004 10:12:25 GMT

That's just ok, Maj, 'cause I don't think I'll think about her attitude anymore. Maybe she cannot be my best friend although we have been classmates for 10 years. Everyday is a new day - I heard this in a rock song, and maybe life will open - I'll find my really good friends in the future.

Re: Friendship

maj — Fri, 25 Jun 2004 11:56:47 GMT

Maybe she has been sorting out things that have been extremely difficult for her. Maybe she has concentrated on her exams. I am sure that she is going to phone you as soon as she has some time to do so.

Re: Friendship

nga_vn87 — Fri, 25 Jun 2004 06:34:14 GMT

Oh... noone seems to be as interested in this thread as before, except me.

I wanna tell you about a friend of mine, who has just come back home from her holiday to the Southern part of Vietnam. She had been there for over two weeks, and came back home three days ago, but she didn't even phone me. (mind you, she and I have been classmates for 10 years and her house is near mine) - I felt rather sad. I never think that I play no part in her heart. She even doesn't care how I am these days, no question... I love her, maybe because she has been my friend for over 10 years, but she doesn't seem to know about my feelings. I cycle with her everyday but we talk just a little bit, 'cause we have no topic to talk about. I really want to know what she thinks of me. We are said to be close friends, but I don't think so. She doesn't understand me at all...

Why is life so unfair???

Re: Friendship

nga_vn87 — Sun, 20 Jun 2004 03:00:45 GMT

What do you mean Meah? Is that question for me? If so, yes, you can be a friend of mine.

Re: Friendship

meah — Sat, 19 Jun 2004 03:41:20 GMT

hi...
my i have close with you?

Re: Friendship

nga_vn87 — Fri, 18 Jun 2004 08:09:14 GMT

No, Coollee, you've misunderstood me. I didn't mean I'd find friends on the Net for me to confide in, 'cause they won't understand me as much as my ordinary friends in life.

We can be friends through the Internet now, of course, and in the future, we may be good friends of each other (if we can meet and talk, for instant), then the friend we find on the Internet will become real in our life, right? There's nothing impossible.

Yesterday, while listening to a music program on the radio, I knew about a strange Friendship. They say that they don't have anything in common, and that one always criticises the other, but they've been good friends for such a long time. Is it interesting?