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Re: authorization letter

Mister Micawber — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 05:58:52 GMT

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To Whom It May Concern:

This authorizes the bearer,_______________, to obtain on my behalf authenticated copies of my marriage contract with my husband, ______________.

Herein enclosed are copies of the obverse and reverse of my driver's license.

Respectfully yours,

_____________

authorization letter

Anonymous — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 05:50:49 GMT

To Whom It May Concern: This authorizes the bearer,_______________,to execute any legal transaction in your office as to getting authenticated copies of my marriage contract with my husband______________.Herein enclosed is a front&back copy of my driver's license to further legalize the process. Anticipating for your positive response.Thanks & more power! Respectfully your's,_____________ Requester

Re: sex outside marriage

Mr Wordy — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 23:43:40 GMT

New2grammar
So swinging and cheating are examples of sex outside marriage?

To slightly revise my earlier reply... I think that you can understand this phrase literally -- to mean sex with someone to whom you are not married, irrespective of whether you are married to someone else. However, the phrase is often trotted out when discussing moral issues surrounding sexual behaviour, and this is the context that came to my mind first. In this common context, I take it to exclude "cheating" because it's usually a "given" that cheating on one's spouse is not to be condoned.

Rumor has it

New2grammar — Wed, 19 Mar 2008 06:05:45 GMT

[Rumor has/Rumors have] it that Mike is going to marry his brother's ex-wife and fight for custody of the three children that his brother and his ex share.

First question, Is 'Rumor has it' an idiom, therefore "Rumors have it" is incorrect?

I find "the three children that his brother and his ex share." confusing. Could you please rephase it? Note that the brother has five kids, of whom 3 are from his marriage to his ex. Mike and his future wife are only interested in the three kids.

Thanks

Valley of the Dolls

Jackson6612 — Wed, 12 Mar 2008 20:45:37 GMT

Introduction:
Valley of the Dolls is the title of a best selling novel by Jacqueline Susann, published in 1966. It is widely considered one of the most commercially successful novels of all time. The "dolls" within the title is a slang term for downers, mood altering drugs.

Valley of the Dolls was an instant success when it was first published. Since then it has sold more than 30 million copies. As the first roman Ã clef by a female author to achieve this level of sales in America, it led the way for other authors such as Jackie Collins to depict the private lives of the real-life rich and famous under a veneer of fiction.

Plot Summary:
The novel begins immediately after the end of World War II and chronicles (=recounts) the story of three young women who embark on careers that bring them to the dizzying heights of (=an important position, high level) fame and eventual self-destruction. The three characters are brought together by a fictional play called Hit The Sky. Anne Welles recently arrives from New England with hopes of success in New York City, and she is working for an agency that represents legendary Broadway star Helen Lawson, who stars in Hit the Sky. Neely O'Hara (aka Ethel Agnes O'Neil) is a plucky (=brave and determined) kid with an undeniable talent and a background vaudeville (=type of theatre entertainment). Neely lives downstairs from Anne and uses her friendship with Anne to get a role in the chorus (=group of people who sing together) of the play. Jennifer North, a beautiful blond with limited talent who is squired around by rich men, appears in the play as well. The three women become fast friends, and share a bond of ambition and the tendency to be involved with the wrong men.

Jennifer meets a nightclub singer named Tony Polar. After an ultimatum (=warning, threat), Jennifer finally marries Tony and goes to Hollywood with him. Shortly thereafter, she becomes pregnant. Later she learns that Tony has Huntingon's Disease. Tony's half-sister Miriam explains that Tony's condition is congenital, convincing Jennifer to have an abortion, even though Jennifer had planned to keep the child after divorcing Polar for unfaithfulness. In contrast to the film version (where Jennifer finds herself working in "art movies" to pay Polar's medical bills), Miriam pays Tony's hospital expenses out of his own savings. Jennifer decides independently to perform in French art house films, since she is only highly regarded for her body and is desperate for money owing to her mother's unceasing demands (=her mother keeps asking for more money so that she can party everyday). Jennifer's real ambition is to have children upon whom she will lavish the approval (=give a lot of admiration, affection, or praise) and affection she was denied by her family. Stress and smoking make her an insomniac (=finding difficult to sleep), and she uses titular (=nominal) "dolls" (barbituates (=drug that makes calm and sleep)) sparingly (=using a little of something) as sleep aids. Jennifer returns to the United States after years in Europe, where she gains moderate success as an actress. She meets and falls in love with a Senator. However, she is diagnosed with breast cancer and told she must have a mastectomy (=surgical operation to remove a breast). In bed, her lover unwittingly (=without knowing or realizing) mentions that he loves her breasts and she later commits suicide with an overdose of "dolls".

Neely becomes famous on the Broadway scene, and moves to Hollywood to work in movies. She quickly earns a reputation as demanding, spoiled, and difficult to handle. Despite that fact that her movies earn high returns at the box office, they consistently lose money due to her behavior and long shooting periods. She becomes addicted to the dolls that Jennifer introduced her to, using them to lose weight and to sleep. At one point, Neely says that she is using up to 50 a day. After numerous suicide attempts, a year long black list (=list of things that should be avoided) from the entertainment world and two failed marriages, Anne has Neely committed (=willing to give her time) to a psychiatric hospital. Upon release from the hospital, she works with agent Lyon Burke to revitalize her career and quickly returns to her vicious, arrogant behavior. She begins a relationship with Lyon, despite the fact that he is married to her close friend Anne. Her attraction to the dolls is too strong, and she seems to spiral into a final decline.

Anne fares (=achieves) the best of all three, becoming a highly successful model after a stint (=period of tiime of time spent doing something) as a secretary. Even in her administrative job, her beauty and class are obvious to everyone. Shortly after she arrives in New York, Millionaire Allen Cooper falls for her after only six weeks of dating, and demands her hand in marriage. Anne, not ready to settle down so quickly, repeatedly refuses. Allen does not take no for an answer. During an out of town trip for the debut of Hit the Sky, Anne realizes that she is in love with handsome and charming Lyon Burke, a lawyer at the agency. She has sex with him, and tells Allen the truth. He angrily breaks off the relationship, much to Anne's relief. Her happiness is short-lived when she realizes that Lyon is not ready for a serious relationship with her. She remains in love with him for years, even when she is a successful model in a relationship with an older man. She meets Lyon again and their passion is quickly rekindled (=to have a particular feeling, thought etc again). She and Lyon are married, and Anne has a baby, whom she names Jennifer after her now deceased friend. Lyon continues to have affairs, including one with Anne's close friend Neely. Eventually, Anne falls under the allure (=attraction) of the dolls and uses them to escape the reality of her own life.

Questions:

1: How to pronounce ''Jacqueline Susann''?

2: How to pronounce ''a clef'' in ''roman a clef''?

3: What does ''squired around'' mean?

4: What does ''she seems to spiral in the decline'' mean?

Re: Help proofreading "A Doll's House"

Mister Micawber — Sun, 24 Feb 2008 05:53:58 GMT

I have underlined some problem areas:

The Woman Within the Doll

The Baltimore Sun wrote that back in 1879, âA Doll's Houseâ by Henrik Ibsen âshocked and offended people wherever [it] was played,â and that the dramatist assured it was not about a woman, but about âanyone who had to live according to the rules created by othersâ (Hyder). Society thought to be outrageous that a woman would get involved in manly things, for her role in society was exclusively to care for the family and please her husband. Women did not enjoy the rights women do now. They were not taken seriously, and decisions were made by the man who was and still is considered the head of the family. Nora's choice to become free, independent and leave her husband, along with some of the characters' actions made this play to be scandalous for its time.

Ibsen wrote in a letter that the story in âA Doll's Houseâ was about a woman who feels:

" Oppressed and bewildered by belief in authority, she loses her faith in her own moral right and ability to bring up her children... [She is bittered because,] like certain insects, (ought to) go away and die when she has done her duty towards the continuance of the species... [she shakes] off of cares, [but then she feels] a sudden return of apprehension and dread. She must bear it all aloneâ (Doll).

Nora had a beautiful life, she had a husband, beautiful children, and everything she wanted. Earlier in her marriage, his husband suffered of an illness of which he needed to recover somewhere in the south, but this was concealed from him by the doctor and Nora. Not having the means to afford a trip so costly and out of love and desperation, Nora decides to ask for a loan without letting Tolvard know. She forges her father's signature to obtain the loan because she does not want to trouble her father either, who is very ill himself too. However, she is responsible and works secretly from home in order to make the payments. Eventually, Tolvard finds out about her secret and feels that his life, happiness and reputation will be lost once Krogstad, who lent the money, publishes the then scandalous situation out of revenged for having fired him from the bank he now manages. He quickly turns against her. That is the moment when Nora starts to understand things she did not understand before; she realizes she does not love Tolvard anymore just as he does not really love her as she thought, and decides to leave for good to discover herself. [Too many pronouns-- I don't know who's doing what to whom]

The scenery consists of the Helmer's apartment and nowhere else. The description of the apartment depicts the decision that Nora will have to make. There is a door to the right which leads to the entryway and another to the left which leads to Helmer's study. Nora will have to decide which door to take: freedom or Helmer [Tolvard / Helmer: we don't know if they are one or two]. The place is not âexpensively furnishedâ, but it is comfortable, just like Nora's marriage, she lives a comfortable life, but there are certain things she lacks that are more important than riches. No woman could even consider back in the 1800s doing such a scandalous things as to leave not only the husband, but her children too.

The main character in the story is Nora, a seemingly selfish, materialistic woman who cares a lot about money and in living a good life. This is to be expected since her father liked to spend money himself and live a life he could only could afford with credit. He used to called her his âdoll-child, and he played with [her] the way [she] played with [her] dollsâ (Ibsen 1041). She was obviously very protected and spoiled by both, her father and her husband, who provided anything she needed or wanted. Her father raised her not think for herself and just play her role in society. âWhile [she] was at home with [her] father, he used to tell [her] all his opinions, and [she] held the same opinions. If [she] had others [she] said nothing about them, because he wouldn't have liked itâ (1041) [All the bracketed pronouns are distracting; it would be better to give the exact quotes]. This repeated again as a married woman; she would not express her opinion to Tolvard, for they never talked seriously, but seemed to have trusted Dr. Rank better. Norah was greatly misunderstood. She was a loving person, she loved her husband so much that she was willing to forge her father's signature to obtain a loan to take her husband south in order for him to recover from a deadly illness [You said all this before; cut it.]. She is willing to do anything for him. Eventually she realized she does not have to play the doll anymore. One can only imagine people's reaction throughout the play's events.

Tolvard Helmer seemed [Be consistent in verb tenses] to be an ideal husband. He is loving, admirable, honest, ethical, hard-working and successful, but there seems to be a dark side of him. He is a prideful man, he won't ask for money to anyone, to [Commas are not conjunctions.] do so would be humiliating. To him, honor and appearances are more important than family. He does not believe people can change and become good, as he did not believe Krogstad was a good person although he had been honest for a long time already. Also, he is so affectionate that makes one wonder of his sincerity; he calls Nora diminutive names such as featherbrained, spendthrift [These are not diminutives.] , a squirrel, a song-bird, lark, strange little being all the time (994). One cannot think of a woman who would like being called like that and who would not be affected emotionally. Tolvard's reaction after finding out Nora's secret is amusing. He had told Nora that sometimes he wished â[she] was in some terrible danger, just so [he] could take [his] life and soul and everything, for [her] sakeâ (1038), yet he quickly turns against her calling her a wretched woman, a criminal, unprincipled, untrustworthy of raising her children, incapable, etc. His hypocrisy is clearly revealed when as soon as he realizes that Nora's mistake won't affect his reputation he forgives her (1039-1949). There's a saying that goes something like a good friend is hard to find, specially during difficult times; Tolvard was nor a good friend neither that perfect husband he seemed to be. He loved to have control of his wife's life, and his conversations usually tend to imply that Nora would be lost without him; that she needed his guidance and teaching. Tolvard did not love Nora, â[he] thought it fun to be in love with [her]â (1041).

Dr. Rank is in love with Nora, and that seems to have been the main reason he visited the Helmer's house. This character is not essential in the play, but it causes outrage when he dares to reveal Nora his secret. This is almost vulgar for him to do, and very dishonorable, specially during those times in which people were very conservative. It is as if he had taken advantage of the trust the family had in it and ended up tarnishing his reputation.

Mrs. Linde is one of Nora's old friends from school. She gave up her true love for money, but in the end things did not turn out the way she had expected. Her husband died leaving her in a terrible financial situation making [On the other hand, commas are essential for separating dependent clauses.] it necessary for her to work in order to sustain her mother and brothers. After her mother passed away and her brothers did not need her help she left town. Not to have someone to take care of made her feel âcompletely alone in the worldâ, and it frightened her âto be so empty and lostâ (1032). She needed âsomeone to take care ofâ, she wanted to be a mother and wanted the companionship of a husband. In the end, she was supposed to have helped Nora hide her secret. She could have convinced Mr. Krogstad to get the letter back, but she did not intercede (1033). She might have been envious of Nora, after all, Nora had all she was longing for; a husband, beautiful children, and a good life.

Lastly, Krogstad is the one who lent Nora money to save her husband, and threatens her to tell her husband if she does not convince Tolvard to let him keep his job at the bank, but just as Nora did, he once made a mistake, which caused him to loose his reputation. He was a man who seems to have been harden by life's difficulties. When he was left by the woman he dearly loved âit was as if all the solid ground dissolved from under [his] feetâ (1031). This might have caused him to become the âhalf-drownedâ kind of man, as he refers to himself. After finding love in his life he turns from the revengeful person into a forgiving one.

In conclusion, Nora realized of her true value as a human being and as a woman. She decides to leave everything and everyone, husband, children, luxuries to a journey to liberate herself. To do such thing was unthinkable at that time and caused turmoil, but it was the best choice she could ever make. To leave one's children is a terrible things to do and was not necessary, but looking beyond that, without prejudices, it is not hard to understands she is trying to figure out who she really is and what she believes in. This is essential to one's happiness; therefore she is determined to make necessary changes in her life even if people think bad of her. It seems that daring to do so back in the 1800s was just as bad as selling drugs or prostituting oneself.

the stranger

LillySchillz — Mon, 29 Oct 2007 07:05:11 GMT

A Close Reading of a Paragraph from Albert Camus's The Stranger
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[1] That evening Marie came by to see me and asked me if I wanted to marry her. [2] I said it didn't make any difference to me and that we could if she wanted to. [3] Then she wanted to know if I loved her. [4] I answered the same way I had the last time, that it didn't mean anything but that I probably didn't love her. [5] "So why marry me, then?" she said. <img src="/emoticons/emotion-14.gif" alt="Devil [6]" /> I explained to her that it didn't really matter and that if she wanted to, we could get married. [7] Besides, she was the one who was doing the asking and all I was saying was yes. <img src="/emoticons/emotion-29.gif" alt="Music [8]" /> Then she pointed out that marriage was a serious thing. [9] I said, "No." [10] She stopped talking for a minute and looked at me without saying anything. [11] Then she spoke. [12] She just wanted to know if I would have accepted the same proposal from another woman, with whom I was involved in the same way. [13] I said, "Sure." [14] Then she said she wondered if she loved me, and there was no way I could know about that. [15] After another moment's silence, she mumbled that I was peculiar, that that was probably why she loved me but that one day I might hate her for the same reason. [16] I didn't say anything, because I didn't have anything to add, so she took my arm with a smile and said she wanted to marry me. [17] I said about my boss's proposition and she said she's love to see Paris. [18] I told her that I'd lived there once and she asked me what it was like. [19] I said, "It's dirty. Lots of pigeons and dark courtyards. Everybody's pale." _________________________________________________________________________

This paragraph from Albert Camus's The Stranger appears one-third into the novel. It takes place after Meursault finishes work for the day. The paragraph is mostly being narrated by Meursault, with Marie questioning him concerning love and marriage. It exhibits Meursault's uncaring, simple, and pessimistic nature, as well as Marie's unscathed desire to marry Meursault. Meursault's nature and Marie's feelings are shown by Meursault's simple remarks and actions, and Marie's reoccurring statements concerning marriage.
Meursault doesn't seem to really care about the things that most people would care about. Upon Marie proposing marriage to Meursault, he blatantly states that it doesn't make any difference to him and that they could get married if she wanted to. Marriage isn't something you would suspect one to think so lightly about. It is obvious that Meursault doesn't care whether or not he marries Marie, signifying his uncaring nature (sentence 1 and 2).
When asked by Marie to describe Paris, Meursault states, "It's dirty. Lots of pigeons and dark courtyards. Everybody's pale."(sentence 19). The short general statements made by Meursault display his simple-natured self. In addition to Meursault's apparent simple nature, the statements by him also exhibit how pessimistic he can be, giving only negative feedback to Marie about Paris.
Despite Meursault's colorless feelings towards Marie, Marie touches heavily upon the subject of marriage in the paragraph. Marie asks Meursault if he wants to marry her and if he loves her. With passive responses made by Meursault such as: "No"(sentence 9) and "Sure" (sentence 13), Marie still shows her love towards him and takes his arm "with a smile" and says that she wants to marry him (sentence 16). Marie has shown that she will continue to love and want to marry Meursault regardless of how he does or does not feel about their relationship.
Meursault and Marie have proved to be totally different people, yet they have also shown that they are alike. Like Meursault, Marie has remained unchanged about the subject of marriage, although their views on marriage are quite different. Meursault's uncaring, simple, and pessimistic nature has proved to have attracted Marie and her passionate ways of thinking.

Re: Homosexual marriages- against the natures law?

LuUu21 — Thu, 23 Aug 2007 17:53:38 GMT

Religion has nothing to do with homosexual people. We're talking about freedom, and in these case freedom means everybody can fall in love with whom he/she likes. Then, if two men or women want to get married (they don't need to, but that's the same for heterosexual couple) why can't they not??

"To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness or in health, to love and to cherish 'till death do us part."

Two men (or two women) can do this the same. But if the Church doesn't approve the homosexual marriage, then they can get married in the registry office (in some countries, like Spain e.g).

The most important thing is that we learn not to interfere in the other's lifes. You are heterosexual? Ok. But be tolerant and accept there are people who love in a different way than you and must have the same rights.

Re: Islam, is the Religion of Peace

Jhumjhum — Wed, 22 Aug 2007 03:29:38 GMT

I don't want make you people understand the problem of the world .Because there is no solution for the actual problem.What we can hardly do is to creat a storm in a cup of tea(in this forum by our arguments and rearguments) .Who really bothers to solve!!!It is the problem of the peace loving religion who has to announce that they are peace loving so that no one misunderstand them.

I live in the part of a city which is very old and we have been staying here for about 70 years .My Grand father built that house.I had not been there since 20 long years,but now again I am with my father .My mother died of cancer 4 years back.She was very popular woman in the neighbourhood.Our neighbours poke there noses to some extent which is sometimes irrirating definitely but they are at the same time helpful also and come to help in distresses.So might be my sense of neighbouhood is a bit different and old .And now in the age of computer telephone aeroplane, rather I like to think that Doll, Dew, Armita my neighbour with whom I can share my feelings to some extent.

I live in a democratic country which is sovereign so it is upto us whether the other country will interfere in our internal matter.When there was great Tsunami we had to face a huge loss.At that moment many countries stretched their helping hands to us and we accepted those help but when the US country asked for military help our contemporary PM said that "From Buddha to Gandhi we are peace loving country so we don't need helps of men who are adorned with arms".I think it is your " huh? ha? hÃ¶Ã¶? " that made Mr bush angry .You should treat everything peacefully if you are peace loving.

Doll my father is 80 years old and a widower and you will get a mature daughter with 21 years old grand son free of cost as your marriage dowry.
Oh dew if I were your mother .My son craves for a laptop and does really need it.He studies B.E (IT) and is in final year.

Re: Homosexual marriages- against the natures law?

Gramma — Wed, 20 Jun 2007 21:06:45 GMT

Yes, to some extent I agree that is what they are looking for (tolerance and respect), but they don't need to be 'married' to have tolerance and respect. Tolerance and respect don't come from a piece of paper.   It comes from good breeding and teaching in the home to treat everyone with respect.

Basically, I think what they want is to normalize homosexuality and put it on a par with heterosexuality.   Gay and *** couples do not need (for that matter neither do heterosexual couples) government or a church to 'approve' or 'acknowledge' their unions.    Especially if you live in a free country like America.
There are already legal ways for committed couples to protect and provide for each other that is not a marriage contract.   So why this clamoring for government sanction? The cry that we "love each other we should be able to live together if we want to" has nothing to do with marriage.    Like I said, anyone is free to live with whom and where they want. No one wants to stop anyone from doing that.   So that is simply a distraction.   So what are they after?   Like I said, it is an agenda to 'normalize'.

The purpose of marriage is not to provide a vehicle for people to be 'in love.'   Marriage is for the propagation of the species. The continuation of the society. The protection of the children.   Marriage is not about the adults.    Let me repeat that: Marriage is not about the adults!   That is why governments and churches look favorably on marriage.   That is why centuries of social history supports marriage between men and women.   I would think the homosexual community would recognize that it is in their best interest to continue to protect and support traditional marriage as the best way to continue to preserve our civilization.   Anyone who has studied the importance of the birth rates understands you need to do more than simple replacement in order to preserve, protect and grow your society or country.   And who are the people who are doing this largely?   The heterosexuals.   So, is this heterosexual relationship more important to secular society, governments, churches, etc than homosexual partnerships? The answer is yes!    A resounding yes!   So, I think it a mistake for the homosexual communities to want to change the traditional understanding and customary use of marriage.    Generally, homosexuals do not procreate. Who will produce the children that will be the workers who pay the taxes and keep the society humming so that they can continue to live as they wish.