By would rather

Hi, please read the following text and tell me what you think: "Please don't come. I'm indisposed at the moment. I have a chronic disease and I'd rather you only saw me when I'm well I'd rather you didn't see me when I'm ill." This is what I would normally...

I seem to have noticed that, when the object is not a person, "would rather" is often followed by the subjunctive mood instead of the simple past or the pluperfect. For instance, we say "I'd rather you joined me", but I rarely see: "I'd rather the meeting was...