I was about to type "please bare with me" into an email, but as I was about to type "bare", I realized that I wasn't sure which [Bare/Bear] was the correct usage of the phrase.
Doing my own research into it, there are entire blogs dedicated to the history of the phrase, but each with only one particular spelling, not mentioning the other, and each offering possible origins based on the single spelling they chose.
Most of these seem strictly opinion, leading to my question; Is there an official answer to this, as in a source to reference it against?
It is: Please, bear with me.
Think of the use of the word bearing, as in weight-bearing or ball bearings.
"Bear with me" means, "support this process by waiting a moment while I explain, clarify or complete it"
- To hold up; support.
- To carry from one place to another; transport.
- To carry in the mind; harbor: bear a grudge.
- To transmit at large; relate: bearing glad tidings.
- To have as a visible characteristic: bore a scar on the left arm.
- To have as a quality; exhibit: "A thousand different shapes it bears" (Abraham Cowley).
- To carry (oneself) in a specified way; conduct: She bore herself with dignity.
- To be accountable for; assume: bearing heavy responsibilities.
- To have a tolerance for; endure: couldn't bear his lying.
- To call for; warrant: This case bears investigation.
- To give birth to: bore six children in five years.
- To produce; yield: plants bearing flowers.
- To offer; render: I will bear witness to the deed.
- To move by or as if by steady pressure; push: "boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past" (F. Scott Fitzgerald).
Ball Bearing and
forbearing both have a sense of carrying a load or weight. If someone
bears a load they are carrying or enduring it.
"Bear with me" means to patiently carry the weight/result of my slowness, stupidity, etc. A ball bearing is a ball that carries weight or pressure.
Forebear means to refrain, abstain, patiently carry a burden (forbearance can mean to delay foreclosure on a mortgage which implies someone else carries the burden of the debt).
Considering that the origins of the English language were back in the days of Elizabethan English (or at least a lot closer to that form of English than the current form).
I would look towards the word "forbearance" as having the correct meaning of the word
bear in the phrase "bear with me".
The phrase has the connotation of "have patience with me". That's what the idea of "forbearance" is all about. I don't think one has to look for a highly technical answer to explain this.
• verb uncover and reveal.
• verb (past bore; past part. borne) 5 manage to tolerate; endure: I can’t bear it. 6 (cannot bear) strongly dislike. 7 give birth to (a child). 8 (of a tree or plant) produce (fruit or flowers). 9 turn and proceed in a specified direction: bear left.
PHRASE bear with be patient or tolerant with.
bare in the phrase "Please, bear with me."
Unless you're at the pool, the beach, or in a romantic, secluded place with your significant other, saying "Please, bare with me" could have a very undesirable outcome.
While a bear is an animal, you'll probably never see a bare in the woods.
I haven't the foggiest idea where the phrase came from, but when it's written, be sure to use the correct word, or risk sounding either illiterate or offensive, depending on your reader.
bare with me: get naked/nude with me