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Anonymous:Children of divorce
People all over the world like to get married. Everybody hopes for his or her life to be happy with his or her partner. Children make their parents happy in life. Love and respect are very important between the husband and wife. Children in all the world need to live with their parents without problems. Different opinions between married couples often make them think of divorce. Divorce is spreading in the world. The Weighted average: 1.3 per 1,000 people who get divorce ( see picture). Most people don't like to talk or hear about divorce. So, divorce is not good for any family. Many people who are divorced regret it now. Some people don't like to get married early because they are afraid of what will happen in the future. Divorce causes a lot of issues between people who were married. Children don't want their parents to be divorced, and they like their parents to agree with each other on everything. Many children want to help their parents love each other. Parents have to be patient with each other even if they have personal problems. Divorce is a problem in societies. Some people divorce because of something trivial. When married couples fight in front of their children that affects the children in all aspects of their lives. Some parents divorce for insignificant reasons. Many parents who are divorced advise the people who are not yet married to follow their advice and consider marriage carefully. Some families who were divorced find a lot of obstacles in life. People should read about the life of a married couple before they get married. Divorce is a popular problem in the world. Some people think children don't feel for their parents when they fight, but they are the first people who feel for their parents. A proverb in the Middle East is “ Divorce destroys a lot of houses.” The rate of divorce is higher than the rate in the past . Some teachers in elementary schools discovered that some students whose parents are divorced like to play and study alone. Police
discovered that people whose parents are divorced have a higher rate of crimes . Children are the victims of their parents. Life has proved that children who have no parents to take care of them have less success. Divorce influences the behavior of children. Divorce of children causes a lot such as drop out from school and likely to do crimes as well as addiction in drugs.
“found children who experience changes to their family structure are MUCH MORE
LIKELY to become high school dropouts than classmates whose parents stay
together”. Keith Geren, Canwest News Service
Divorce is harm and painful emotionally for children. Divorce is a painful and confusing process for any family. ''Painful problems occur in every family. In fact, pain is a challenge for everyone. 5 Painful Problems: Learning that their parents are divorcing. Moving to a different neighborhood and school. Window watching for the visiting parent who doesn't come. Meeting their parents' new lover. Meeting the kids in the "other" family '' (Tracy,1). Divorce hurts children's emotional development. Experiments showed that the reason of depravity children is divorce. Many children in the past followed the wrong way because their parents were divorced. Divorce is more painful for adolescents than children. Parents who are separated make a lot of pain for their children. Pain affects many aspects of children's development. For some children , divorce creates psychological disturbances. Some professors say divorce is very harmful for children in any culture. The divorce of parents is a major stress life even for children and adolescents often having effect an health (Journal of Health and Social Behavior, 105) . In addition divorce creates emotional and the stress. “Divorce is a physically, emotionally and financially draining experience for many people. Often times, many people forget that children have certain rights in these very adult conflicts. We present the following as a guide for those experiencing divorce with the hopes that they will assist all parties to focus on the most important aspect of any divorce - the children” ( Fabrizio Law Offices). Divorce changes the behavior of children to make it more aggressive, and plants violent behavior in them. Children suffer deeply for their parents. Divorce is painful for growing children. It hurts both children and adults. Divorce always makes the children grieve. Divorce clearly increases the risk that children will suffer from psychological and behavioral problems. School achievement also can suffer. Other children become sad for prolonged periods of time. They may become depressed, anxious, or become perhaps overly responsible kids who end up caring for their parents instead of getting cared
for by them (Emery, 1). Many children lose their confidence when their parents get divorced. The tragedy is when children hear from someone about the their parents' divorce when the children were not aware of serious problems. Some children, whose parents are divorced, tried to find a solution, but unfortunately they couldn't. When a child's parents divorce and then get remarried the situation will be very painful for the child because he will feel alone. Divorce leads children to be frustrated because they don't understand their role in situation. Children whose parents are divorced ask themselves a lot of questions. Divorce causes a child to ask himself painful questions, such as “Who am I?, and “Why am I in this situation?” Children sometimes wonder why they have to go to school and study. They think these think because nobody cares about them. Some children lose a lot of their weight when they know about that. Children need someone to care about them and they always need help of their parents. Divorce damages families. Divorce is painful when the child only sees his father or his mother one time in 2 weeks for a visit , and when he wants both of his parents to hug each other as well as wanting both of them playing with him. It's very painful for a child when his parents are in his life, but in separate homes. Children need sympathy from their parents. Usually children question one of their parents about why they are divorced
The relationship of children that most make effects for them. The effect of the divorce for children is in their behavior and their treatment of others. So, sometimes the children whose parents divorce fight with other children, and experience many problems in their lives. The boys' behavior differs from girls' behavior when their parents divorce and their reactions are different as well. Divorce makes the boy act strangely, and the girls as well. “ Boys and girls tend to react differently to their parents' divorce. As a rule, girls tend to become anxious and withdrawn, while boys tend to become more aggressive and disobedient. Girls from divorced families may become sexually active earlier than girls from intact families. Interestingly, boys often adjust better when their mothers remarry, while girls have more difficulty” ( Foulkes-Jamison). Divorce has an influence on adjustment for children with new situation such as living with one of his parents, and the influence of divorce makes the children confused as well as makes them no sense. As Pickhardt point out, “ The divorce also makes no sense, children can become really confused” (54). When their parents divorce, The children feel confused about the divorce and what caused it. “Children whose parents divorce are not so much children of divorce as they are children of the myriad circumstances that lead to divorce” (Emery, 68) . Some children do some strange acts, that because the divorce of their parents influences them to do that. Children blame themselves for divorce their parents rather than blame their parents. Grow child up with his parents is very important, and it's harder grow up the child when his parents divorced. Children of divorce makes higher levels of depression and anxiety. Divorce lead children to reduce the relationship with their parents. Sometimes the divorce of the parents makes the children destructive and makes them lose their confidence in themselves. Effects of divorce leads the children to have reduced ambition. Usually the children whose parents divorce they are have highly vulnerable. Divorce can cause the children to be violent and aggressive. Divorce influences many of the children to do a lot of wrong acts in school, on the street as well as home. Divorce influences the children to think about suicide. “This grief and anger lead to despair and contribute to the high rates of clinical depression, suicidal thoughts and actual suicides among children of divorce. One young man remembers that in the years following his parents’ divorce, "I really thought about suicide a lot “ ( Marquardt ). “People who come from broken homes are almost twice as likely to attempt suicide than those who do not come from broken homes “ (Bilotta's ,” Velez-Cohen “).
Divorce causes social harm for children. The consequences of the divorce for children are many .Divorce causes or leads to many risks involving psychology and physiology for children's social development. Many children whose parents divorced suffer social harm. “Teenagers in single-parent families and in blended families are three times more likely to need psychological help within a given year” (Hill , 1993) “ In addition, these children suffer more medical problems. Research has shown, “Children in divorced families have a greater risk of injury, asthma, headaches and speech defects than those from an un-separated family” (Dawson). Children have to live and interact socially with people, but unfortunately some children whose parents divorce are unsocial and insecure with people. Divorce makes the children unsocial with society. Divorce influences the children in the area of study, Children don't care about their study when their parents divorce. “Children of divorced parents are roughly two times more likely to drop out of high school than their peers who benefit from living with parents who did not divorce” (McLanahan, Sandefur ).Many teenagers whose parents divorce do a lot of crimes that because divorce lead them to do it. Some people say the important think to make the children social with people. Many children whose parents divorce don't like to discuss or spend long time with people, that means they are lost their confidences. Some parents who got divorce notice their children loss weight and get bad health care. Children who have experiment parental divorce have more suffer than those who do not leave home at a young age. During both parents marriage after that they divorce that would be impact children's to development and it will be increase the mobility from place to place. The neighborhood is important for children when they are change it, they will feel for something unfamiliar or something strange in the new neighborhood. Most children of divorce live originally with their mothers and they often transfer from place to place or from neighborhood to neighborhood. Divorce leads children to less of attention from their parents. Robert has shown. “ while some psychologists contend that such attention given to the child does not meet his need “ ( Allers, 26 ). Children who have a sibling often find themselves in a stranger relationship with their sibling. Children whose their parents divorce in social need to find new friends. Children note after the divorced different routine and increased conflict between the parents and increase parental psychological disorder. Divorce events will be related to higher levels of psychological and school adjustment problems as well as psychical illness in children. Families whose divorce they have more health problems and they are more likely to use health services as well as. Always the children whose parents divorce have disorder health. Children whose form broken home they have poorer health than the children whose form unbroken home. Children whose parents divorce need friends to support them socially for everything. Social support from friend, family, community can help parents and children cope the problems. Divorce affects on people of social. Children had been upset for divorce their parents. Many student whose their parents divorce they like to stay very quiet in class, and they always don't have participation with their teachers. Many children whose parents divorce became apathy for everything. The girls and the boys are different for who are feel more for their parents. Girls from divorced families have more depressed than girls from intact families, and the boys are more discouraged , Hopeless as well. Usually the children with their parents very exciting and they can say anything they want to say, but the children whose parents divorce sometimes they can't say and became shy with their parents. Divorce effect the children and teenagers for their study and to make reduce their score and less level of educate as well as they found high change in school. Divorce make many children miss one of their parents. Most the children whose parents divorce live with one parent. Divorce lead children to the wrong way or they will be don't have good decision in their life. The statistic of divorce increase all over the world. Always children send to their parents negative massage, that mean they are not satisfy . Divorce make a lot of thing one of them is lead the children and teenager to thing for smoke or to use the drugs, they think that drugs make better to alive. Drugs is very harmful for their health and lead them to end their life by those drugs. Divorce damage confidence children to learn ,to talk , to express their opinion anything.
Many people divorced all over the world. Children make their parents happy in life. Children in all the world need to live with their parents without problems. Divorce causes a lot of issues between people who were married. Divorce is a worst problem in societies. The resent rate of divorce is higher than it in the past. Many people who are divorced regret it now. When married couples fight in front of their children that affects the children in all aspects of their lives. Some people divorce because of something trivial. Some families who were divorced find a lot of obstacles in life. Divorce hurts children's emotional development. Divorce changes the behavior of children to make it more aggressive, and plants violent behavior in them. Children suffer deeply for their parents. Divorce is painful for growing children. Divorce is a popular problem in the world. Children whose parents are divorced ask themselves a lot of questions. Divorce causes a child to ask himself painful questions, such as “Who am I?, and “Why am I in this situation?”. Divorce is a painful and confusing process for any family. Children need sympathy from their parents. Consequences of the divorce for children are many. The boys' behavior differs from girls' behavior when their parents divorce and their reactions are different as well. When their parents divorce, The children feel confused about the divorce and what caused it. Effects of divorce leads the children to have reduced ambition. Usually the children whose parents divorce are highly vulnerable. Some children do some strange acts, that because the divorce of their parents influences them to do that. Divorce can cause the children to be violent and aggressive. Divorce influences the children to think about suicide. Divorce causes social harm for children. Divorce causes or leads to many risks involving psychology and physiology for children's social development. Divorce is very harmful for children health. Many teenagers whose parents divorce do a lot of crimes that because divorce lead them to do it. Divorce lead children to lack of attention from their parents. Families whose divorce they have more health problems and are more likely to use health services as well as disorder health. Social support from friend, family, community can help parents and children cope the problems.
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