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We're planning a trip to San Diego next week so we're not in SD yet:

Is he coming with us? Or

Is he going with us?
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Both are fine. Do you picture him coming toward you, following closely as you progress, or do you picture the group of you moving together toward SD?
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going with us as a group.
Then you would use 'going'.