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maj:What do you think of people who lead double lives? Why do they do that? Do they lack excitment in their lives?
Or a criminal hiding his past.
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Or men who are married and go out with other women who are single and lie to them about them being single. When they have an entire family at home. They soon believe in their own lies and start living double lives.
That's a problem that needs serious counseling.
Anonymous:Perhaps. But let's take the case of someone who just cannot stop lying and recieves tu enjoyment formbeing able to manipulate lives. Are these people truly evil? After all, many of them just want to be loved and accepted---however, can we overlook that this person's needs to be accepted and loved comed at the cost of deceiving another. Has anyone ever been on either side of this type of situation?
I'm not sure if such people want to be loved, let's say they want to be 'recognized'.People with multiple personalities have generally led a depressing childhood/past.
Anonymous:I was on the other side of this situation for 12 years. This guy I really liked told me his divorce just went through about a year into us hanging out. When we first met he said he was separated and that he and his wife still lived together but slept in different beds. Anyway, when he told me he was divorced I believed him. At the time I was young and naive. Looking back, it all makes sense now, the way he acted. Never keeping his word, standing me up, not being able to spend holidays together, never letting himself get too close, not wanting to sleep with me in order to "protect me". Duh, I should have known. But, it never occurred to me. I knew there was a major problem here, but I didn't know what. 12 years later I discovered it on my own and conftonted him. Long story made short. I view him as a pathological liar and a true sociopath. Very charming and a born salesman. An ASSHOLE.
Anonymous:I think that some people want to try new things and new experiences with new people and society tells us this is wrong. Is it truley impossible to want more than one other person in your life, who you may just end up hating in the end. I think as human beings it is impossible for everybodys idea of happiness to be the same. So some are forced to live double lives in fear of what others will think.
Anonymous:I am a 32 year old lady , married with 4 children. stay at home mother, always have been. I lead that double life that everyone is talking about. I have been seeing a 61 year old man( doeant act or look a day over 40) for more then 2 years now. He is married as well. We love our spouses but lack something in the sex department so we found each-other and fill that void. neither of us want a full time life together. I never want a divoice from my husband. same goes for him when it comes to his wife.. The way I see it, if no-one knows then it can't hurt them.. being with this other man keeps me happy at home with my hubby and kids. I not a nagging ***.. so everyone wins..
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