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Which is the proper phrasing:
I was pleased with your giving me the gift
or
I was pleased with you giving me the gift

This is awkward in the first place because it would be better to say I was pleased with the gift you gave me....but I hear this many times with the use of "your" followed by ....well, what is "giving" in this context? A gerund?

If someone would say
I was pleased with her pointing this out - that sounds ok rather than saying I was pleased with she pointing this out. But when you vs your comes into the picture, people often use "you".
Thanks,
Barbara Martin
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Hi,

'You' is more commonly said, but 'your' is considered more correct, more formal and more stylish.

'Giving' here is a gerund.

Clive
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Hi Barbara,
AnonymousI hear this many times with the use of "your" followed by ....well, what is "giving" in this context? A gerund?
Yes, it is a gerund
I think giving the right context, the gerund form is used more common than we realized. i.e.
I am tired of your lying.
I am not going to tolerate anymore of your cheating.
When are you going to stop your drinking!
We appreciate your helping us.
With the " I was please.." construction, it would seem to me that using the "gerund" (with your giving) form to show the appreciation sounds a bit stiff, not that it is grammatically incorrect. Wouldn't it be more natural to say: "I was please that you gave me the present"? Or simply " I was please with your present".

Just my two cents...