My father would be safe there, and he might sit longer than he'd intend and talk in spite of himself.

What's the meaning of "in spite of himself" Did he talk with himself?

Thanks. Emotion: smile

If you do something in spite of yourself, it means that you don't want to do it but you do it anyway.

eg She knew he was a bad man, but she loved him in spite of herself.

In your example, it sounds like your father didn't want to talk to people but he did it anyway.

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