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Which is correct grammatically?

"I hope you don't you don't mind me telling you what to do."

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"I hope you don't you don't mind my telling you what to do."
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I think you can say both - ? but await instruction from ppl with more interest in the nuts and bolts of grammar than I have!!

my GUESS is - in the first the "me telling you" is a verb form, so the me is a personal pronoun and "telling" is the progressive aspect of the verb...

in the second "my telling" is grammatically different, with a possessive pronoun (my) and the "telling you" is like a gerund or abstract noun in .... as much it is functioning as something that belongs to you ...

clear!
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"me telling you what to do" can only mean "that I tell you what to do."

"my telling you what to do" can mean both "that I tell you what to do" and "the way I tell you what to do."

Some people (they are few, though) prefer the second option as the "most correct", but both are used.
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Both are fine. The second is perhaps more formal rather than more correct IMHO.

Henry

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I was wrong in something I said in my post. The second one can't mean "the way I tell you what to do."

If the sentence had been "...you don't mind my telling you", then "...they way I tell you" would have been a possible interpretation of the sentence.
Would that normally sound polite? Emotion: tongue tied
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Both are correct.

In the first sentence, "me telling you what to do" is a noun clause. It is the object of the verb "mind". Within the clause, "telling you what to do" is a present participial phrase used as an adjective to modify "me".

In the second sentence, "my telling you what to do" is again a noun clause that is the object of the verb "mind". But changing the head word from "me" to "my" does cause a major change in grammatical structure: "telling you what to do" becomes a gerund phrase that is the object of the possessive adjective "my".

Here's another similar example:

I hope you don't mind my smoking.

The gerund "smoking" in the above example is the object of the possessive adjective "my".