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I’m going to hang out with a friend. She will drive me to the park and we will walk around. She says we will stop by a drive thru restaurant to get food. I don’t want to buy food so I will bring my own food. However I will let her buy me food if she wants. So is it appropriate to ask this question when we arrive at the restaurant:

“Are you going to buy the food for me? If not I won’t buy it. I have my own food”

or is there anything firmly assumed here. Like obviously, where she said so, she means she will buy food for me.

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mezzopianois there anything firmly assumed here?

No. Nothing is assumed in "Let's get lunch at a drive-thru".

mezzopianoSo is it appropriate to ask this question when we arrive at the restaurant:“Are you going to buy the food for me? If not I won’t buy it. I have my own food”

No. It's not appropriate. Just say you'd prefer it if you both bring your own lunch. See what she says to that.

CJ

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She never said she would pay, and there is no reason to assume she will. It puts your friend on the spot if you bring it up. She will feel obliged to pay, and she will be annoyed with you for springing it on her. You have to say something like, "You go ahead. I brought food. Would you like some of mine? I brought enough for both of us." You have to wait for her to insist on paying of her own volition, and beyond that, you have to decline the offer at least once when she does. Didn't your mother teach you anything?

Listen—next time get all this straight before you go.

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