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I'd like information on the grammatical correctness or usage ( frequency ) of the the phrase 'my friends and me' in comparison to 'my friends and I'
I have the feeling that the phrase is used only in informal speech and not considered grammatically correct
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Hello, Walsrode, welcome to the forums!
Well, it depends on how you use them:

"my friends and I" should be subjects:
My friends and I are fond of rap.

"my friends and me" should be an objective form:
He left a present for my friends and me.

But there have been a lot of posts lately about this matter, and it seems "my friends and I" can be heard in both cases. I'm not sure grammar has accepted this use so far...
"My friends and I" is correct as the subject of the verb. "My friends and me" is correct as the direct or indirect object of the verb. You can tell which is correct by separating the friends into their own sentence - then it will be clear which is correct. Examples:

My friends and I like movies. My friends like movies. I like movies. (NOT "me like movies!")

She kissed my friends and me. She kissed my friends. She kissed me. (NOT "she kissed I.")

He sent greetings to my friends and me. He sent greetings to my friends. He sent greetings to me.
(NOT "he sent greetings to I")

See? Just get the friends into their own sentence and it all becomes clear. HOWEVER - be warned that mixing these up is a common mistake among native speakers -- some people think, as you suggested, that "me" is informal and "I" is always more correct. NOT TRUE. (This is one of my pet peeves, in case you couldn't tell.)

--khoff
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this is what the British National corpus says
We go snakechasing, my friends and me!';
I am not interesting in object/subject difference
but in sentences like

My friends and me want to have some fun tonight
which I have heard some people use but still have the feeling that it is incorrect
My friends and me want to have some fun tonight --
yes, some people use it, but it is incorrect. You're right.
You're right, it isn't correct. And it's true, you'll hear it!
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Hi folks,

Getting the examples given before:

• My friends and I like movies. My friends like movies. I like movies. (NOT "me like movies!")
• She kissed my friends and me. She kissed my friends. She kissed me. (NOT "she kissed I.")

I got a doubt. Can I say/write the way it's shown below? If not, why not?

- I and my friends like movies. I like movies. My friends like movies.
- She kissed me and my friends. She kissed me. She kissed my friends.

Does the 1st person needs to be placed as last position? (My Gosh! How can I ask that in better way?)Emotion: smile

Thanks.
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