Rina Contreraz
Professor Tafarella
Eng 101
April 30th 2005

Love and marriage, go hand in hand. Many dreamers and believers would say so anyways. I am one of those people. We spend most if not all of our lives searching for our true love, our soul mate, the one person that makes us feel complete and utterly fulfilled. Is there even such a person out there? Does this so-called true love, in fact exist? On the other hand, is it that we want so much to believe it can actually occur, we fantasize and play out our own love story.
As children, we have secret crushes on the boy or girl that sits across from us in class. As we grow older, we may experience our first love, a puppy love, so innocent and pure. We playfully hold hands and write love notes to each other, promising we will always be together. As time passes and still we grow older, becoming more mature, we begin the search for that special person to share our lives. A partner, a husband or a wife, someone we can call our very own. Hopeful somewhere out there, is another human that will love us unconditionally. Do we ever find that person we so desperately seek? Some would agree we eventually do, yet others believe just the opposite.
Love exists in many different shapes and forms, it is that warm feeling we get when we look into his face, the intense look of passion deep within his eyes. The butterflies in our stomachs his crooked smile releases or even the shivers his slightest touch sends down our spine. Love is what we experience when we have finally found him, the one person for whom we have been searching.
Aristotle once said, “Love is composed of a single soul inhibiting two bodies”. In other words, he meant that love consumes two separate beings and unifies them as one. Two people coming together, their souls uniting to become one single existence. Together they will work as one, creating a life where each in their own way will contribute to the well being and development of that relationship. I believe this is what marriage and relationships are all about. When two individuals enter into matrimony, they are promising one another to consider each other in all of life’s aspects. Agreeing that each one is no longer out for his or herself, but are there to take care of and watch over the other. I have faith that I have found my special partner, and my soul mate. In my own love story, I envision he will be my companion for all eternity.
We met in high school I will admit I was not prepared at that time in my life for a lifelong journey with this person. How could I be, I was a teenager only 16 years old. What did I know about love or commitment? What lay ahead would be a whirlwind of emotion and life altering experiences. We fell in love, we had a baby and eventually we were married. We had no idea what was yet to be in life for the two of us. How could anyone foresee the roller coaster marriage and family life really is? I find truth in the idea that a solitary soul can dwell within the bodies of two people in love and grow to be one. When two individuals make a commitment to be with one another they are joined not only (figuratively speaking) physically, but mentally and spiritually as well.
Then again, many would disagree with me on this very topic. Some might say that there is not such a thing, as a soul mate. That it is make believe, and a figment of the imagination. They may counter my claim to have found a soul mate as fictional and untrue, maybe stating that soul mates do not exist and what I have found is simply someone who shares same interests and views. Many people believe that they are attracted to a certain kind of person because it meant to be. Some consider that whomever they end up with is just by chance and nothing in the stars or spirits helped the process of finding them. Furthermore, they may assume human interest in one another is only an animal instinct to feel connected. Take into consideration men and women who fall “in love” one, two or three times, casually becoming involved in marriage or intimate relationships. What make us believe they are looking for a soul mate or if they even consider that an option.
Some individuals may agree with Gloria Steinem when she stated, “A woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle”. In other words, she meant that women do not need to have a male figure in their lives to get along. That like a fish has no use for a bicycle; a woman also does not need a man in her life. This is coming from a feminist’s point of view, geared towards empowering women. It can also serve the same purpose in empowering men to realize they do not need a woman to help make their existence any better. I agree to a certain extent, yes it is true that having a significant other is not necessary to go about with your life. I could probably do just fine on my own. However, that is not what being in a marriage is fore me. It is more than just the physical connection and attraction. It is about feeling united on a much deeper level.
“To love someone is to identify with them”. In other words, everything about one another is compatible, each partner is able to know the other inside and out. Each partner is able to express themselves in their true form and know they are accepted. This is my opinion is to identify with someone. Marriage is not only about fascination and adoration. Working hard to keep the fire alive is trying at times but when a couple is truly dedicated to one another, even the darkest rain cloud cannot extinguish the flame. In order for a marriage to work, there must be a few major components infused into it. Communication is not only necessary, it is vital. When communication is, not present or lacking, the relationship deteriorates and dies. In my own personal experience, I have come to recognize that honesty is definitely indispensable. When I promised my husband to love honor and cherish him on our wedding day, I also pledged to be open with my hopes and dreams, my feelings, emotions, and even my fears. I promised to share all that I was, and all I would become. Opening up to another individual can be easier said than done. We worry about what the other person may think of us, or if they will approve. In a relationship of any kind, openness is a key to happiness. Being able to talk with that person can make a world of a difference. When we bottle up any feelings or troubles inside, we can tend to burst at the wrong time and in the wrong ways. It has been especially difficult to me because I am not the kind of person that can express my feelings easily. I tend to store all emotions in a small bottle inside myself. I have had to learn to speak my mind, being ever careful of the ways I express my sentiments.
As a final point, I would like to reiterate that while it is not necessatity to become involved with any other person throughout our lives. It is a very pleasant feeling to have a partner through lives difficulties. Someone who is there to share your experience along the way.

Please anyone help me make this more wow! I need to pass this class
I have just scimmed through it rcmarsi, it looks very good to me.
Perhaps you should post some of this in the controversial forum. Could lead to some interesting discussion.
Emotion: big smile
This is delightful, rcmarsi. I noticed a couple of things, some of which are probably typos:
Agreeing that each one is no longer out for his or herself

This should be "out for him or herself
but are there to take care of and watch over the other

this should be singular is

is simply someone who shares the same interests and views


attracted to a certain kind of person because it is meant to be


What makes us believe they are looking for a soul mate or if they even consider that an option?


That like a fish has no use for a bicycle; a woman also does not need a man in her life

replace the semi-colon with a comma

When communication is, not present or lacking

lose this comma

being in a marriage is for me


I agree to a certain extent. Yes, it is true that having a significant other is not necessary to go about with your life

note punctuation

This in my opinion is to identify with someone


Working hard to keep the fire alive is trying at times, but when a couple is truly dedicated to one another even the darkest rain cloud cannot extinguish the flame.

note puntuation

As a final point, I would like to reiterate that while it is not necessary to become involved with any other person throughout our lives, it is a very pleasant feeling to have a partner through life's difficulties. Someone who is there to share your experience along the way.

note spelling and punctuation
Students: Are you brave enough to let our tutors analyse your pronunciation?
Thank you everyone, you all are awsome. I have one other request. I cant seem to find the sources for the quotes I used since I just looked them up in a wedding planner I had when I was getting married please if anyone knows where they came from I would appriciate the help. My public library is closed now and I wont have time to go tommorow before class.
1. Love is composed of a single soul inhibiting two bodies. Aristotle
2. A woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle. Gloria Steinem, But my coworker thimks it was Irina Dunnin 1970
3. To love someone is to identify with them . Aristotle
Thank yoiu so much for all your help. You have no clue how much it means to me .
Students: We have free audio pronunciation exercises.
Gloria Steinem had this to say in a letter she wrote to Time magazine in autumn 2000:

"In your note on my new and happy marital partnership with David Bale, you credit me with the witticism 'A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle.' In fact, Irina Dunn, a distinguished Australian educator, journalist and politician, coined the phrase back in 1970 when she was a student at the University of Sydney."