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Some time ago I was listening at the radio. The dj at that hour asked the audience if a virgin could call. What do you know? He gets the call and starts making fun of her. He puts this classical music, heaven like and starts telling her, "virgin please make a miracle". I was totally pissed. I am not a virgin but I do respect a person who in her mind wants to save herself for that person he/she will share his/her life. Hold on though, some months ago I was watching a talk show and this lady started telling a girl that there shouldn't be any virgins. She said all girls should be circumsized. I was like, stupid lady, if they want to keep theselves like that let it be. I know that a person who has kept her/his self without sex are more likely to be more morals. I get the sence that people who have lost their virginity tend to envy those who still have it. I don't know if there is anything to envy about that, (inocense, maybe), but my question is. How bad is it to be a virgin?

There is no bad or good in not having had sexual relations (yet, or never). It is something personal, therefore no one else's business.

If you have had them, does it make you in any way better ... NO!!!
Dears

women have to look at themselfes as atreasure and have alot of things that they have to give to whome deserve and the one who deserve this is the one who came and say i want to marry you,so by anyway she have to give her treasure to her husband who prefered her among all other girls and choose her in the same way should be the man.

it is good feel to be vergin and still have somthing to give to the one who will respect you and say marry me.but when women spesially loose her verginity i think she lost the main gift that suppose to give to her husband also.

Who feels good in his before marriage relations will feel bad after marriage as he or she will always look for the previous feelings but if they are married vergin and start their relation together for the first time they will put this first time as standard for all comming relations.
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ManouI understand your point Sharann, but what you seem to miss here is that my friend cannot go out with a girl BECAUSE he's still virgin. Because of his own innerfears, he has a lot of difficulties to contact a girl, just to even go out. And more the time passes, more he's "afraid".
That's why I think he should just go out with a girl, make love with her, and throw away all his shyness. Well I think...
Even if he's disappointed, that would be the experience he would need to "start again".

What I want to tell here is that to be virgin is not a bad thing, but when you grow older, it might imply personnal issues, even irrational ones.
I happen to have a friend who is also a 27 year old male virgin. I have the feeling that he totally lacks the experience and any idea of the commonly accepted norms in approaching girls, although he doesn't have any innerfears. Quite the opposite, some girls who he hit on told me that he is rather intimidating. Those norms are usually easy to learn from a young age, but when you are over 20s and acting like a child when hitting on women, chances are you might stay virgin for the rest of your life....

And for girls, staying virgin to an old age might attribute to tumor development in the ovary as studies shows....To sum up, I think virginity is a double edged sword for better or worse.
obviously it's good. And i will request my wife to be virgin before we get married.
GuestSome time ago I was listening at the radio. The dj at that hour asked the audience if a virgin could call. What do you know? He gets the call and starts making fun of her. He puts this classical music, heaven like and starts telling her, "virgin please make a miracle". I was totally ***. I am not a virgin but I do respect a person who in her mind wants to save herself for that person he/she will share his/her life. Hold on though, some months ago I was watching a talk show and this lady started telling a girl that there shouldn't be any virgins. She said all girls should be circumsized. I was like, stupid lady, if they want to keep theselves like that let it be. I know that a person who has kept her/his self without sex are more likely to be more morals. I get the sence that people who have lost their virginity tend to envy those who still have it. I don't know if there is anything to envy about that, (inocense, maybe), but my question is. How bad is it to be a virgin?
Hi all,

I am new to this forum. Accidentally found it when I was thrown off by the new home page of this website. Virginity could be a rather controversial topic but I’ve spoken my mind openly in many occasions about topics like this.

Many believe that one can choose what he or she wants to do with his / her body. This seems to be acceptable by many of today’s generation. But that’s where the problem is. People, especially those with liberal views want freedom from morality, believe that virginity is just a name and means nothing. Case in point, high schools are handing out condoms and B-pills. What does it tell you. The schools are telling the young people that it’s ok to have sex and it’s ok to loose your virginity. How many pregnant high-schoolers have we come across? If there is no believing in God, there is no morals. That’s how I believe. To me, virginity is a precious part of one’s body which is not only to your future spouse but it also signifies your morality. Another problem I have is that, a lot of young folks will make a mockery of you when they found out you are still a virgin. The wrong becomes right and the right become a mockery. That’s where our social morality is going, straight to hell and many are coming along with it.
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see the funny thing is that most people are saying its the "girls" choice what about the guy see most people see the boy as a sex driven machine that has only on thing on his mind and that is to take the verginity of some one else most people only see it from the girls point of view where as alot of people think that there arnt many male vergins but that is not true there is alot of male vergins and i really hate it when i hear some one say "oh he only wants to get into her pants" its bull shit or "he's only useing her for the sex" i am totaly sick of it
First of all, is a matter of opinion. It depends on the country you live, how does the society view the sex, and most of all, on the person's feeling. Sex must not have an age to happen... since the person is sexually mature, it must be accepted. Thought, there are some restrinctions. Se must no be forced by anyone... and when I say 'forced' I'm referring to violence, or even pression. Among guys it's more common. The not-virgins have kind of a higher power... they are Gods sometimes, they mock the virgins, and sometimes, the 'mocked one' in oder to get rid of all that pressure, and even to be part of that group, has sex.

So, being a virgin is neither bad, nor good, its normal, just as not being it. how ever, in any part of the world, virginity will be considered at the same time, but by different people good and bad.
As a women, I am getting a little bit sad, how many people think a girl has to be `unused´ before marriage, as if she was a car or something. I mean, what is the point, i think having sex is just a deeper way of beeing with someone, and if both have good feelings about it, it is ok. You are the same person afterwards, and you havn´t lost anything! I think it is a form of `ruling´ over women, to tell them that they should spare themselves for the `one´. It comes out of a long tradition of seeing the womens (and sex himself) as a sin, that is only allowed to produce children, and having fun with your body is forbidden (unless maybe, you are married and `under control´). If my body and my soul tell me, that it is right for me to have sex with someone, than it is perfectly all right to do it! I dont have to be ashamed of liking sex, I just have to be careful with my soul and my health (safer sex with someone I love)

If you dont want to have sex, or you havent met someone you love yet, its perfectly OK to remain virgin, its nothing bad, i was a virgin until i was 19 because I wasn´t ready. But when I decided that I was ready I did it and never regreted it. Listen to your body and your soul, and not to something `the others´ say! My love for my partner isn´t worth less, only because I loved someone before.
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It depends on culture and tradition of each country. In Western countries, people seem easy-going, but in Oriental countries, they are not. If you wanna "do it" before marriage and you are willing to accept all results from your decision, it should be ok. But from my point of view, normally, people regret doing it too soon but I've know noone regrets to keep it for her husband. Anyway, it's a bit unfair for women! Nobody asks a man "Are you a virgin?"^_^
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