1 2
Hello Vance,

I think that question of behaviour is same for men or women. Both have some plus or negative points.

I will suggest you to read the following mentioned books, and I hope that they will help you to understand men better.

They have helped me a lot.

Books are :-

"Why men don't listen and women can't read maps"


"Men are from mars. Women are from Venus"

There are lot of things to learn from these books.

Hope it will help you also.

Best of luck.

Hi Vance,

I don't think that all men are as you describe. I am married to a wonderful, sensitive, loving man - exactly the opposite of what you described.

I think that part of the problem with the men you meet may be your assumptions of who they are. How much time are you spending with these men getting to know them before commiting to a serious relationship with them? I have a friend who constantly picked men with tempers and personalities such as the ones you described. I think that people tend to fall into a pattern of the type of people they date/have relationships with. In this instance it sounds like you have fallen into a pattern with the type of men you are having relationships with and are having a hard time getting away from that pattern. This is likely why you are feeling that all men fall into these personality traits.

I would suggest spending some time with a man you are interested in as solely a friend before you consider entering a relationship. A lot of the time a person will show more of their personality and who they really are with a friend then they will in the beginning of a relationship. Go out with a group of people and your interest and trust your friends opinions of him. A lot of the time your friends may see something you don't.

Anyways, that's just my two cents. I hope my opinion helps you out!
Students: We have free audio pronunciation exercises.
If a man has had an light stroke, and has a hot temper. Should I leave. It doesn't matter what I say or how I say it, he attacks me with rage in his voice. He is getting scarry. We might be moving to another town soon & I don't know what to do.
I prefer women... Emotion: smile

If you feel that you are in danger, or that you could be in danger in the future, leave. If you feel frightened and unhappy all the time, leave.

If you still love him and feel that the stroke has caused the behaviour, try discussing it with him and with a doctor, to see if there is something that can be done. Perhaps he is angry and distressed about his stroke and taking it out on you. This is not acceptable, but understandable short-term, but you need to make it clear that it cannot continue.

Ask yourself, if your life continues in this way for the next 30 years, how will you feel about it. What will that you in the future wish you had done now?
Students: Are you brave enough to let our tutors analyse your pronunciation?