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What should I do?

My husband and I have been married for seven years and together ten years. The first 3 years were just sweet. He periodically surprised me with gifts and unexpected [moves?] such as taking me to dinner even though he knew I'd made dinner, singing to me, and taking me to the [ballroom dancing club?/ what do you call a club that plays jazz/tango music]. During our fourth to seventh year together, he'd become less interested in me and spent most of his him at work and sometimes at night, he'd rather sit at the computer surfing the Internet or chatting online. Our relationship took a turn for the worse in the eight year when I learned that he was intimate with a female colleague. When asked, he denied any special relationship. For the past one year, we rarely talk. We only talk when needed, about mortgage, dinner, bills and things of that sort. What should I do?

Are there any mistakes?

Thanks.
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New2grammarMy husband and I have been married for seven years and together ten years. The first 3 years were just sweet. He periodically surprised me with gifts and unexpected exitements [moves?] such as taking me to dinner even though he knew I'd already made dinner, singing to me, and taking me to dancing the [ballroom dancing club?/ what do you call a club that plays jazz/tango music]. Over the period from During our fourth to our seventh year together, he became he'd become less interested in me and spent most of his him at work, and sometimes at night, he'd rather sit at the computer surfing the Internet or chatting online. Our relationship took a turn for the worse in the eighth eight year when I learned that he was intimate with a female colleague. When asked, he denied any special relationship. For the past one year, we have barely rarely talked. We only talk when we need to needed, about the mortgage, dinner, bills and things of that sort. What should I do?
Go to see a solicitor.
Thanks, Huevos, but I have a couple of question.

1. Why does "During ...had become" not work for you? What does it mean to you?

2. Can I replace barely with rarely? What's the difference?

And thanks for the advice. Don't worry. It's not a story of my life. Emotion: smile
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Hi,
  1. I would use "during" when the point of view was from within one unit, and one unit only; so "during our fourth year" is ok but if there were more than one year it would be "between our fourth and our seventh year" or "over the period from our fourth year to our seventh year". With regard to "had become" why do you believe you need past perfect here? Both indefinite and past perfect work but why did you choose past perfect? To me indefinite sounds clearer and more straightforward.
  2. They are almost synonyms: Hardly, barely, scarcely imply a narrow margin by which performance was, is, or will be achieved. Hardly, though often interchangeable with scarcely and barely, usually emphasizes the idea of the difficulty involved: We could hardly endure the winter. Barely emphasizes the narrowness of the margin of safety, “only just and no more”: We barely succeeded. Scarcely implies a very narrow margin, below satisfactory performance: He can scarcely read. In your context barely emphasizes no more than was absolutely necessary while hardly just means very little.
Thanks, Huevos, Now I understand #1.

I think there's a misunderstanding on #2. I asked for comparison between rarely and barely.
  1. Did you see my question above about the perfect?
  2. Oops! Well "rarely" just means it was not frequently where as "hardly", "scarcely", and "barely" all have the feeling of a negative aspect.
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1. Yes. Good point.

2. Does it mean you would accept rarely equally well? Thanks in advance.
2. No, which is why I changed it. This is a matter of style though so don't worry to much about it. Anyway my point was this: there are many people I hardly ever speak to but when we do we immediately pick our relationship back up at the friendly point where we left it on the previous occasion. "Barely speak" on the other hand draws a picture of a broken relationship where speaking to one another is a weighted or disageeable experience.
"Hardly, though often interchangeable with scarcely and barely, usually emphasizes the idea of the difficulty involved: We could hardly endure the winter. Barely emphasizes the narrowness of the margin of safety, “only just and no more”: We barely succeeded. Scarcely implies a very narrow margin, below satisfactory performance: He can scarcely read. In your context barely emphasizes no more than was absolutely necessary while hardly just means very little. "

there are many people I hardly ever speak to but when we do we immediately pick our relationship back up at the friendly point where we left it on the previous occasion. "Barely speak" on the other hand draws a picture of a broken relationship where speaking to one another is a weighted or disageeable experience.

I can't relate hardly ever speak to the idea of difficulty. Similarly, a picture of a broken relationship to the narrowness of the margin of safety.

Could you elaborate a bit? I'm interested in learning them.
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