I've read through many of the previous posts on this subject (such as this one). It is like reading a foreign language seeing "object of the preposition" and "nominative vs. objective case." Would you please indulge a native speaker who was taught through example and thus never dissected sentences? I would be very grateful!

In a letter I am writing, the following sentence appears:

However, there are many things that I am unclear about and I do not know who to ask.

Microsoft is telling me to change the who to whom. I don't put much trust in Microsoft's success rates at grammar checking. Emotion: stick out tongue I know a correct phrase is "Whom should I ask?" but I don't understand why that is correct. I know it was answered in the thread I linked above, but I frankly don't understand what the difference is.

To be clear, I do want to know the actual rule and not the every day verbal usage. Is there a way I can understand this without an entire re-do of basic English?

I look forward to your responses,
Katie Beth
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Do you realise that your are answering a question that was asked some 11 years ago by someone who has not visited this site since?