I get confused with this word. When do I use the word 'whom' instead of the word 'who'?
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'Whom' would usually be an object of the sentence; as opposed to 'who', which is the subject (i.e: Who gave it to whom? ; "Whom should I say is calling?", etc.)
-Whom did you give it to? I gave it to their son. We use whom because whom is a direct object.
-Who should I say is calling?.

We use who when it is the subject of the sentence and whom when it is an object.
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Hey kubicon, these may help:

Who vs. whom
Grammatical help
"whom" basically, you use after a preposition. try to remember this tip, use with words that end in "m" (him, them, whom)
"who" answers the subject. let's try to make this clearer...

She gave the book to him. To whom did she give the book? To him.
Who told my secret?! To whom did you tell my secret?
Who was the man you served coffee to?

Basically, anything that answers "he" "she" "they", can use "who"
and anything that can answer "him" "her" "them", can use "whom"
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Anon, thanks for a nice and well-thought-out explanation, but this thread is FOUR years old! It seems you have some good thoughts to share, so next time, look for a more recent tread, okay?
GG, if people want to help, does it really matter how old a thread is? Help and useful comments themselves are appreciated, not the time... isn't it? Emotion: wink[f]
Yes, it is! You are so right.
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