Hi , I'm zara I'm 18 years old girl .Now I'm handling a strore (GARMENTS) like I'm kind of manager . Store so most here is service girls . I think they are furtrating me , all the time talks about me and staring at me and laugh . Even I scared to go to the Shop .I don't know why they doing that . I tried to ignore them but it's so so hard .Sometime I want to shout them and kick them out but without them Shop is not gonna work .Actually their ages are not that difference with me . I stay very calm in the shop , I talk to them only when concern about work . Othertimes I stay very elegant .But I don't really want to . I'm young too and I want to have some fun sometime . But I have to look them all the time .If I give them a chance and stay like friends then will they ruin my life ?

Please any1 tell me how i have to stay ? Please.....

And also I'm suffering with this , I have no friends so if I tell this to my parents then the named me that I'm NARROW MINDED.

I really don't like that name .I don't know why it's happend to me please anyone suggest me some way , and please tell me these things are concern about my problem

1) Bcoz I have no friends

2) Bcoz I have no boyfriends

3)Bcoz I never had a lover

Please .....
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hi Zara,

Plz dont worry dear. i think u need friend to share, to laugh together, to cries together, joy so on......be free to talk to your parents and family members about your problem. i'm sure their will understand your feeling.

U need to built self confident and be persistences and brave to face problem. believe in god and pray and work hard to deal and face your problem.

dont be care about people around u who makes u life miserable. Think on your goals. Set goals and target to achieve something to prove your ablitity.

Be happy with what u have that they dont have...like u a manager but they just sales girls. maybe they jealous about u? who knows.

To achieve takes years but to destory takes overnight only. think wisely!

Talk to them ( sales girls) that u dont like them to talk about u and laugh. be serious and firm to them so their understand your feeling.

hope help u.

with best wishes,

vasantha
VasanthaTalk to them ( sales girls) that u dont like them to talk about u and laugh. be serious and firm to them so their understand your feeling.
No, Zara, never do it! Because then those girls will feel satisfaction that they are able to hurt you, and they will keep doing it even more zealously. NEVER SHOW THEM THEY ARE ABLE TO OFFEND YOU. Because that gives them pleasure. Do you really want to give them that? I suppose you are not interested in it, aren't you? On the contrary, never pay attention to what they are doing. And this will hurt them because they see you don't think it is necessary to be reckoned with their opinion on the matter. And then they will either stop talking about you and stop laughing at you (because they see it doesn't offend you) or keep on doing that but spoiling their nerves (because of the fact they can't have an influence on you). But please, don't take it so close to your heart! That can sap your health one day.

If I were you, I WOULD NOT PAY ATTENTION to them. Besides, you should realize that they do this specially to offend you. Do not let them carry it out, agreed?

Try to look at your situation with SENSE OF HUMOR. In that case you will find plenty of ridiculous things, I promise. For example, you'll see that they are doing their utmost to make you feel unhappy. Yes, I think such their behaviour is ludicrous because one's happiness and mood don't depend on silly talking, do it? Emotion: smile
VasanthaBe happy with what u have that they dont have...like u a manager but they just sales girls. maybe they jealous about u? who knows.
I am sure they envy you. Even if it's not so, and the problem arose because of their nasty natures (thought, it's all the same), is it the reason to be worried about the fact that some people have defected characters? Why should you be worried that God didn't divide intellectual abilities equally between humans?

Despite people live in different countries, their problems are so similar everywhere. Emotion: sad

Zara, I think it would be very good for you to learn psychology of intercourse. Though, it would be good for a lot of people in this world...
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Views from a gentleman who's in his youthEmotion: big smile

I fully agree with your two older sisters from Malaysia and Russia,with the exception of being too serious to them.

Gentlemen like me loves girls who are ladylike,smart,staunch and ...( every positive goodness),for example Ruslana,Audrey Hepburn and so forth.Emotion: stick out tongue

So take up those suggestions.

Good luck!

regards,

hepburngeng
HepburngengI fully agree with your two older sisters from Malaysia and Russia, with the exception of being too serious to them.
Too serious? Well, I was in Zara's situation once, and I would not say it is too funny. Emotion: sad But, again, I believe that SENSE OF HUMOR is the tool what always helps us to take things easy and not to lose heart. So, I can say that you are right to some extent, Hepburngeng. Emotion: smile

Zara, like cures like.Replace undesirable for you thoughts by desirable ones. Perhaps, it is rather difficult in the beginning, but it really helps! I know that by my own experience. Emotion: wink For example, imagine that you are living in a big zoo and all the people around you are animals. Emotion: surprise Watch them, watch their habits, learn them, etc.Switch your attention to something different from that stupid talking because the latter isn't worth it.
HepburngengGentlemen like me loves girls who are ladylike,smart,staunch and ...( every positive goodness),for example Ruslana,Audrey Hepburn and so forth.Emotion: stick out tongue
(kidding) Emotion: big smile
HepburngengGentlemen like me loves girls who are ladylike,smart,staunch and So take up those suggestions.

Good luck!

regards,

hepburngeng

Ladylike? You are so humorous.Emotion: smile
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RishonlyLadylike? You are so humorous.Emotion: smile
Emotion: smileI like polite,dignified and delicate lady.
RishonlyLadylike? You are so humorous.
Oh, Rishonly, don't you agree with Hepburngeng? Emotion: big smile
ShabnamSometime I want to shout them and kick them out but without them Shop is not gonna work .
Can't you engage other girls?
Hi , fast I want to thank u very much for post. It’s so encouraging.I think u are very kind really I haven’t seen girls like u and all who posted encouraging letters for me indeed u guys are amazing Thanks all of u .coz all around me I see only monsters and annoying girls anyway ..

Now I feel a lot better. Vasantha, this is reply , absolutely right I really need friends but where or when can i find them . All day I’m struggling for my family I can’t catch any free time. In that time also girls are irritating me Huuuuu....BUT Yes ! I should have to look my own way and think for my own goals .

Vasantha I think I’m not that brave to talk to them .Yes,, this is one of my uselessness I’m not bold , I’m very uncertain and shiver . But I can ignore them right? I will try to ignore them and if it is still not happen then I’ll do exactly what u said.

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